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Hi, my girlfriend had bulimia and told me about it about about a couple months ago and told me she'd stop. So its now two months later and she tells me she needs help. I'm always there for her, i see her a lot and she seems fine and she's tall and beautiful and i don't know why she insists on continuing. She tells me she pukes every time she eats anything. i need help on how to help her because i really care about here.
advice from anyone would help. I am totally clueless on how to help.
Last edited by Just Peachy.; March 4th 2012 at 05:56 AM.
Reason: removing unnecessary prefix
Start by asking her why she feels as though she needs to do this.
Then address that first. Make her feel beautiful and tell her to try to stop, for you. Make her a promise. You'll stop doing something that bothers her, if she stops this.
Make sure you don't come off as judgmental, only concerned. Don't force the idea on her.
But if this doesn't work and you still are really worried about her tell her how concerned you are. Tell her that you don't like to see her doing this to herself and that you'll have to take other steps. Such as telling someone, only because you care. Again don't say it angrily, be kind and gentle.
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Start by asking her why she feels as though she needs to do this.
Then address that first. Make her feel beautiful and tell her to try to stop, for you. Make her a promise. You'll stop doing something that bothers her, if she stops this.
Make sure you don't come off as judgmental, only concerned. Don't force the idea on her.
But if this doesn't work and you still are really worried about her tell her how concerned you are. Tell her that you don't like to see her doing this to herself and that you'll have to take other steps. Such as telling someone, only because you care. Again don't say it angrily, be kind and gentle.
PM me anytime.
^This. +1!
Being a friend means being suportive and understanding and loving and honest. It alio means putting all that into action when you become aware that soemone is out of control and needs more than you can give.
Re: Girlfriend Bulimia -
March 10th 2012, 07:37 PM
Hey there,
First, it takes a lot for a person with an eating disorder to admit that they need help. So be proud of your girl friend. She wants to recover! You sound like such a supportive boyfriend, and that's wonderful. Now, eating disorders are a very mental thing. So chances are, she's engaging in this behaviour to cope with something going on. You can ask her why she does these things, and try to help her with that. Also, encourage her to seek professional help as soon as you can. Eating disorders can generally be long lasting. What I mean is, while she can improve the bahviour and feelings- she's still going to sometimes battle that. Tell her she is beautiful and just be a support. Be there to listen when she needs it. Tell her she can call you when she feels like purging (only if you're willing).