Valentine's day can give rise to uncomfortable thoughts and feelings, no matter one's relationship status, which can be difficult to cope with. Look at these pieces to help work through the feelings you might be experiencing.
How to deal with jealous feelings
Jealousy is a natural emotion that many of us will have experienced in our lifetimes, and while it can motivate us to do better, it can also cause destructive emotional reactions if it is not kept in check. Here are a few tips to help you reduce those negative feelings.
Assess your emotions. In order to tackle your jealousy, it is important to find the root cause of it. Which situations trigger feelings of jealousy? Write down your thoughts to help you be aware of your thinking processes.
Try not to react in a negative way; don't accuse anyone, or show signs of displeasure. Do the exact opposite and offer your kindness, as it is impossible to fight negativity with more negativity. Wait until you have calmed down until you communicate your feelings.
If you are jealous of a particular person, stop putting them at the center of your attention. For example, stop checking their Facebook page. Change your focus by finding a distraction, such as starting a new hobby.
Stop comparing yourself with others. Everyone is different, so learn to be happy with yourself and what you have. Make a list of all your good points; acknowledge your achievements and your strengths, and start building up your self-confidence.
Examine your feelings and consider whether any of your beliefs could be false. These feelings may fuel jealousy. Remember that what you are feeling does not necessarily make the situation true.
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How to keep a conversation going
At some point in our lives, we may have experienced that awkward moment when a conversation runs dry. It takes practice to master the art of conversation, so don't feel disheartened if it does not work out straight away. Here are a few tips to get you started.
Talk about a topic that you're both interested in.
Ask open-ended questions, as closed questions force 'yes' or 'no' answers and is a sure way to bring a conversation to a halt.
Listen out for free information when the other person is speaking, as it may help you to ask them further questions about what they have just said.
People like to talk about themselves, so ask questions that would help you to learn more about them; if you can relate through your own personal experiences, share as much as you feel comfortable with.
Keep a bank of questions on standby that you can call upon if you run into trouble.
Remember that it may not be your fault if a conversation does not go as well as you would have liked. The other person might be having a bad day or could be distracted.
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Being single on Valentine’s Day can be tough but just because you are single doesn’t mean you can’t have “dates” with yourself or friends. Here is a list of things you can do to make the day fun:
Gather all your single friends together and throw a singles only party.
Watch some movies. Here are some suggestions:
La La land (2016)
The Notebook (2004)
Valentine’s Day (2010)
27 Dresses (2008)
How to be Single (2016) (Rated R)
Alternatively, go to the movie theater and see Isn’t it Romantic, since it comes out on Valentine’s Day.
Make red velvet cake or cookies in the shape of a heart and decorate them so you can give them to your single friends, or invite them over and make them together.
Take yourself out on a date and go to a fancy restaurant.
Stay home and have a spa day. Take a bath, use facial masks, or paint your nails.
Start a Valentine’s Day tradition. Maybe cook a heart-shaped meal, or discuss what you love, or who makes you feel loved.
If you have a pet, celebrate your love for them. You can make them homemade treats, or cook them a Valentine's Day dinner.
If you have siblings, spend the day with them.
Make cards for friends and family.
Treat the day like any other day.
Donate blood, help saving a life can fill your heart with love.
Do random acts of kindness.
Binge watch your favorite show.
Valentine’s Day can be hard for anyone whether they are single or not. If you need some extra support during the week of Valentine’s Day there is always the Crisis Text line. They are available 24/7 and all you need to do is text HOME to 741741 if you’re in the United States, or 686868 if you’re in Canada. For other hotlines such as ones for other countries you can visit our hotline page here.
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Valentine's Day can be a great time to take care of yourself by practicing self-care, doing crafts, or trying a new recipe.
Rocky Road bars
Perfect for lunchboxes, or simply as a delicious snack, these Rocky Road bars are easy to make. The following instructions will teach you how to make these tasty treats.
Melt 300g dark chocolate, 125g butter and 3 tablespoons golden syrup in a stainless steel mixing bowl suspended over a pot of hot water, stirring frequently, and ensure that the bowl does not touch the water.
Crush 200g digestive or rich tea biscuits (you may wish to experiment with different types of biscuit). They do not have to be finely crushed; some larger pieces are fine for extra texture.
Fold the crushed biscuits into the melted chocolate mixture.
Add 100g marshmallows to the mixture. You can get creative at this stage and maybe add some dried fruits and nuts, or even some mini chocolate eggs for a special Easter treat.
Add the mixture to a baking tray or suitable dish, allow to cool, and leave it in the refrigerator to set. Then, cut the Rocky Road into squares.
Optional step: Dust a little icing sugar over the top before serving.
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