Triggering: Im going to prove it...Not eating

[Robin]

Ok i told my girlfriend i hate her smoking, i said 1 ciggarette kills me (when she takes it) she went out last night and took 1, So now im going to show her. Im going to show her what its like to live through someone killing themselves, Im not going too eat for 4 days.......

She wants to punish her body then i will punish mine......

Btw for anyone whos wondering im slowly escaping suicide, but now im going to have to damage myself to get the person i love to stop

[KDE]

I think there needs to be more respect both ways. She obviously doesn't respect your disapproval of her smoking but you also don't seem to respect her choice to smoke. I think instead of starving yourself you just need to work out a compromise. Ask her some questions about why she smokes and what you could do to help her quit. I am sure it would work a lot better than you starving yourself.

[Robin]

I tried speaking i told her to wait and see what happens if she smoked. Now she has for the purpose of standing my ground i have to punish myself. If this is what it takes to save her from death ill go 1 year without eating, she needs to see the damage it causes to herself and others around her

[PrincessOfDamned]

thats not the best way to handle this. make the suggestion of her quiting, andif she loves you she will at least try. after that try suggesting rehab. if that dont work, let her go. sometimes if you love someone you just gotta let it go. she then she decides to stop then she has got her mind right.

[Robin]

Funny you should say that, she said to me "ill promise ill try" and in the end i got "i promise i wont smoke again"

[Pelios]

Thats a good idea to see how much she loves you.

[Rosemma]

Im not sure what your doing will help her quit.
If anything itll probably stress her out more... and make her want a cigarette even more.

I think first of all you have to ask her "do you actually want to quit smoking?"
To be honest, I know people who dont want to quit at all.
They know its harmful etc, but they still like to smoke.

Also if she does want to quit, you have to be supportive and help her.
By reacting like this she will just hide how much she smokes from you.
Yes people do that... "oh Ive only had like 2 today" to make out that they arent smoking as much and they are at least cutting down.

You have to get her to be honest with you and herself.
How much she smokes, does she want to quit, and if she does how does SHE want to go about it.
Let her choose and decide what she thinks is the best way for her to quit.
Then support her with that and encourage her to keep going.

[Singing to the starlight]

I don't think you realize smoking is an addiction. Food is not.
If she#s trying then you can't ask much more the that.

[St.Vincent]

I think this is ridiculous, Robin. Smoking is an addiction--she's trying to stop and you're putting undue pressure on her. "If you smoke, you are not good enough, you are so not good enough and I am going to MAKE you stop by punishing myself... what you are doing is so bad that the only way I can get you to stop is by hurting myself."

Ok, I have a bad habit of picking my scabs. It's dangerous to my body, it could cause an infection or something and it bothers my boyfriend and he always tells me to stop, and I'm trying to. What if, instead of just telling me to stop and encouraging me, he went and cut himself every time he was me? That would make me feel so horrible.. like if only I didn't do it.. Imagine the unhealthy pressure. The way to overcome addictions is through internal motivation and healthy encouragement, not fucking punishment and whipping boy torture. I am really, really upset that you would try to do it this way instead of actually supporting your girlfriend.

[losing touch.]

Originally Posted by Robin

I tried speaking i told her to wait and see what happens if she smoked. Now she has for the purpose of standing my ground i have to punish myself. If this is what it takes to save her from death ill go 1 year without eating, she needs to see the damage it causes to herself and others around her

you wouldn't get to a year without eating - you'd be dead by then.

i think this idea is really stupid if i'm honest. i hate smoking, and i really upsets me when i see my best friend smoking but i'm not going to 'punish' myself to try and get her to stop. your girlfriend is her own person and you cannot force her to do anything, guilt tripping her into quitting is not the best way to go about this either. it's being quite immature to be honest.

[Tiny_93]

I dont mean to be rude but you need to get a grip! You can't force someone into quitting smoking. It's an addiction so it takes time and a lot of will power to stop! Blackmailing and gilt tripping her by saying you won't eat will just push her away. You'll be the one to suffer because you're the one who will end up loosing her.

ill go 1 year without eating,

Thats really pathetic if I'm honest - you'll be dead by then. If she wants to quit smoking, let her do it in her own time and on her own terms. Very immature!