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Arrow I want to support him in anyway possible. - August 16th 2012, 03:23 AM

Hey there.
So my boyfriend of 5 months is addicted to certain substances and has done pretty much every kind of drug out there.
He's trying to get clean, because he's about to turn 18 and doesn't want to be an adult with these addictions.
I love him very much, so I am trying to help him get and stay clean. I believe it's been about 2 1/2 or 3 months (the summer) since the last time he did drugs, but now we're going to be in school again soon and I just want to help him get through this and get over all of it.
Oh, and he's bipolar & schizophrenic if that means anything, but he's on psych drugs for all of that.

How can I be there for him even more than I already am?
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Re: I want to support him in anyway possible. - August 17th 2012, 09:28 PM

I don't know just continue to be there for him, Just wanted to tell you that you are great in supporting him. Many girlfriends would have just dropped their boyfriends for even doing drugs. I wish there were more people like you
   
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Re: I want to support him in anyway possible. - August 18th 2012, 02:30 AM

Haha, thanks.
I can't drop him for having problems, when I have my own.
That would be stupid. lol.
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Re: I want to support him in anyway possible. - August 18th 2012, 02:54 AM

Hi Paula!

THE absolute BEST THING that YOU could ever do for HIM would be for YOU to make sure that YOU are taking the best care of YOU!!

It's nice to care for others. But a LOT of 'caregivers' end up making the worst mistake they could ever make. In their quest to help someone ELSE have a better life - they forget about their own life.

IF someone falls into a ditch - should you:

A: Jump in - so you'll be with them?
B: Do your best to stay OUT of the ditch and offer them your hand?

Think about it.

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Re: I want to support him in anyway possible. - August 18th 2012, 03:00 AM

First things first, is he getting professional help with his problems? Does his therapist know of his drug use/addiction? Drug additions, as you know, can be very dangerous, but the fact that it was also in combination with psych medications could have serious long term effects on his health. So I hope he has told his therapist and has been truth and up front. If you know that he has not, I highly suggest you urge him on this. The best thing for him right now is to be getting help and support from his mental health professionals and the only way they can do their job efficiently is if they know things like drug addictions.




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Re: I want to support him in anyway possible. - August 18th 2012, 03:03 AM

Hey Craig!
I totally get what your saying..I mean how are you gonna help somebody if your in the ditch with them?
I'm trying to focus on my life since I'm currently in recovery from an eating disorder, and self-harm and a multitude of other things.
I think I'm just gonna continue to be there for him, like he is for me. <3
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Re: I want to support him in anyway possible. - August 18th 2012, 03:06 AM

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First things first, is he getting professional help with his problems? Does his therapist know of his drug use/addiction? Drug additions, as you know, can be very dangerous, but the fact that it was also in combination with psych medications could have serious long term effects on his health. So I hope he has told his therapist and has been truth and up front. If you know that he has not, I highly suggest you urge him on this. The best thing for him right now is to be getting help and support from his mental health professionals and the only way they can do their job efficiently is if they know things like drug addictions.
Yes he's in therapy, and yes his therapist knows. But they don't really help him get through it in anyway.
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Re: I want to support him in anyway possible. - August 18th 2012, 03:11 AM

Well if he is worried about relapsing he can always go to a rehabilitation center, have you two talked about that option?




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Re: I want to support him in anyway possible. - August 18th 2012, 03:17 AM

He's not worried about that, I am. Yes, we've talked about it multiple times And he's already been to one before. But, I he relapsed afterwards.. :/


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Re: I want to support him in anyway possible. - August 18th 2012, 03:22 AM

If he is not worried about it, then you should just have faith that everything is going to be ok. There really isn't much else you can do. He is going to make decisions about his life and if he choses to use again that is completely on him and is not a reflection of you or how supportive you have been. You just have to acknowledge that his recovery is not in your hands.




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Re: I want to support him in anyway possible. - August 18th 2012, 03:23 AM

Thanks for all the advice Lizzie.


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