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Significant other trying ecstacy - January 26th 2013, 08:24 AM

hi all! this girl im talking to/hooking up with/eclusive with but we arent "girlfriend and boyfriend" just said shes going to a rave and wants to try ecstacty with some friends.

the thought of this bothers me as i worry about her and i just dont like drugs. should i say something and if so what do i say? i dont like these type of things in my life and i dont want to say "dont do it or i wont talk to you anymore" but it just bothers me.
   
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Re: Significant other trying ecstacy - January 26th 2013, 10:43 AM

Hey,

You're probably right to be worried.
Maybe at some point you could gently suggest that it's not good for her, and say that you worry about her wellbeing and don't like the idea of her taking the drugs?

I can't guarantee that it will do anything, but it's always worth trying.

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Re: Significant other trying ecstacy - January 26th 2013, 12:42 PM

I would say something *to her* if I were you. MDMA/Ecstasy is definitely a hard drug and should not be underestimated. It's on my list of drugs NOT to try, and I'm a pretty drug-friendly person.



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Re: Significant other trying ecstacy - January 26th 2013, 12:44 PM

You could always try to talk to her about it. You just have to recognize that there is a fine line between telling her that she CAN"T do ecstasy AND that you are uncomfortable with the idea of it. You could always tell her that generally speaking you don't agree with drugs and just let her know you are concerned about the use of ecstasy at a rave because you are worried about how it might affect her (ex. becoming to dehydrated or getting into some kind of trouble because she'll do something she wouldn't have done otherwise while inebriated).

But if your concerns don't sway her you have to tell her you trust her to take care of herself and leave it at that. If that isn't good enough for you and this becomes a recurring "problem" between the 2 of you (she's using every weekend or something) and you can't deal with that you might want to reevaluate the relationship and decide whether it is something you want to deal with long term, but I think that as a one time thing if you voice your concerns to no effect I think you can let it go.




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Re: Significant other trying ecstacy - January 27th 2013, 12:41 AM

I agree with everyone, you should definitely talk to her about it. Ecstasy can be extremely dangerous and has been known to kill people with just one use. Ask her why she wants to try it. It might be because she wants to feel good or escape feeling all together. You can use that opportunity to let her know that if she ever needs to talk, or wants to have a fun time, that you will be there for her. You can't stop her from taking drugs, but you can talk to her about it.




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Re: Significant other trying ecstacy - January 27th 2013, 06:06 AM

she basically just told me dont worry i wont do anything im not comfortable with.
   
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