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Friend who uses. - July 8th 2013, 05:37 AM

So, today I found out that my old friend, who I haven't talked to in a year uses. Apparently she has snorted crack, used heroin, tried meth, done acid, and multiple other things. Now, this really saddens me. But I'm not exactly surprised by this, she's had a really bad life. But in all honesty, it still doesn't make me feel any better about the situation. I just feel like she totally screwed up her life. I just talked to her tonight, and I gave her a real good pep talk into becoming clean. She told me she has not used in 2 whole months, and I'm super proud of her, it just really worries me that she is going to continue using into the future. Keep in mind, she has helped me through many horrible things in my life and I just want to help her. She tells me she can't trust people and doesn't enjoy talking to older people. She's 16 years old, and is now kicked out of her house. Apparently she got accepted into a few university's! Which is wonderful, but I don't want her to screw it all up. In all honesty, I just don't want her to die, because she was my closest friend at one time in my life.

--- To sum up, I'm just in a really tough position, and I don't know what to do about it. I told her she has my support in everything, but I'm worried she's going to continue using. If y'all have any advice on helping me to help her, that would be much appreciated.

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Re: Friend who uses. - July 8th 2013, 07:09 AM

It's really good that she hasn't used in 2 months! Hopefully she can continue that. Not sure if you've brought this up or not but maybe you can suggest she contact you when she has any thoughts/urges to use. That way you can help her stay away from it, also maybe suggest doing some things that are on the Alternatives sticky.
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Re: Friend who uses. - July 8th 2013, 03:20 PM

Taking on a situation like this is really tough and can be really emotionally draining. While I applaud your effort to help your friend, just remember to keep your well being in check as well. Letting her situation negatively affect your life is not healthy either.

Have you suggested to her to go to some sort of support group? Being held accountable to people who have been in the same situation can really be helpful to some people. She might want to check something out in her area.

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