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Staying clean, for my baby. - October 8th 2015, 04:08 PM

So, to make a long story short I have been what people would call a "stoner" for 8 years now. For the past 5 or 6 years I have been smoking marijuana everyday. I know this is an addiction. I have accepted that and have come to terms with it.
Now though, I am pregnant and since finding out I have quit smoking cigarettes and weed. So I guess you could say I'm about 5 months sober. At first it was hard, but it has gotten so much easier. I promised myself, and my baby, that I would not smoke weed while I'm pregnant. I don't want to affect my child's development by smoking weed. That, to me, is selfish..putting your own 'wants' before your child's well being.
However, since quitting, there has not been a day that I don't think about it. I crave it, and I already know that once my baby is born I will most likely start smoking weed again (although not as much as before). I know this is an addiction I will be fighting against for the next 4 months..the only thing keeping me from caving is knowing my decisions affect my child.
My fiance does not smoke weed, so I don't talk to him much about what I am going through, and I don't really have many people to talk to about how difficult this is that would understand. (My friends are busy getting high and/or drinking their nights away without me now lol) So I guess I'm writing this just to express what I'm going through.
If anyone has dealt with something similar please comment and share your story. Or if you have any tips.
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Re: Staying clean, for my baby. - October 16th 2015, 09:39 PM

Hey there,

I haven't been through what you have, or experienced anything similar, so can't give any advice. But I wanted to let you know that I admire your determination to stay clean for your baby. I imagine that it must be really hard, especially when the cravings kick in, but you are doing so well and have come so far! It's also really good to know that when the baby arrives, you wont be smoking as much either.

I imagine that after having weed play a big part in your life, it may be harder when you don't hang out with friends who also use weed. And probably really isolating that you feel you can't talk to your fiancťe or anyone about this. Do you know if there are any support programs or groups in your areas that can help you kick addiction? That might be worth looking into, and you'll be able to get more support and more people to talk to, who will understand where you are coming from and the struggles you face. We're all behind you too!

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Re: Staying clean, for my baby. - October 22nd 2015, 11:59 PM

I think it's fantastic that you are putting your baby's needs ahead of yours. There are a lot of people out there who don't do this and I saw the end result when I worked in a respite centre for disabled children.

I do know from experience what it's like when you give up weed very suddenly.

My only advice is to tell yourself that you are over halfway and the beginning is always the hardest. You can totally get through these next 4 months.

Yes it will be difficult not to go back to it once the baby is born, particularly if you have a lot of stoner friends. However, be aware that the authorities will come down hard on mothers who use drugs.

Also, when the baby is very small, s/he will require round-the-clock care. So whereas before you could have a smoke and then go to sleep for the night, now you will need to be alert so that you can feed the baby when s/he wakes.

If I were you I'd avoid going back to it. Day or night, there will never be a good time to light up.

Be kind to yourself.
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Re: Staying clean, for my baby. - October 23rd 2015, 01:41 PM

As far as tips go, try replacing the weed with something else that you like.

So when you get the urge to have a smoke, you can do that instead.

It could be a particular food or drink, or something else like a computer game, song, etc.

Be kind to yourself.
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