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Exclamation I don't know anymore - August 16th 2017, 04:49 AM

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I relapsed. Again. this time, my parents know. I have to do drug tests randomeley now, which is really bad.

This is how my parents know.

A freind got worried about me on Saturday after I got high. He told my band teacher, who called the police. well... fuck. im in the system now, and I dant even know what to think. My freinds wont talk to me, My parents dont want we around, my dealer betrayed me... i feel so usless now.


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Re: I don't know anymore - August 16th 2017, 02:35 PM

Hey Keagan,

Relapse happen and it's more on how you deal with them and cope. Do you know how you are feeling about it, the relapse? It might be helpful to know how the relapse has made you feel.

Your parents are only worried about you, the police are there to protect you, I think the police want to know who your dealer is. Street drugs can be dangerous and causes lives to be lost, so having the police know this, isn't a bad thing. If you show good faith to the police that you do want help, they will value that.

Do you really want to stop taking drugs? How does this make you feel to either continue or to stop and get support? It's important to reflect on your feelings. If you aren't ready to stop using drugs, the chances of falling back onto the drugs is more likely. However, if you have a support system it can be a lot easier.

I have some links I would like to share with you that might be of some help. They are found on our Resources page under Substance Use.

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RehabInfo.net is a comprehensive guide for the entire treatment process for addiction – from spotting issues to finding and enrolling into rehabilitation.http://luxury.rehabs.com/

2) Teen Rehab Centre
This website has a lot of useful information about drug addiction, with some pages focusing on some of the mental health issues that are commonly seen side by side with substance use.
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https://www.therecoveryvillage.com/

Now, you don't need to look at the websites if you do not want to. I also recommend checking out our Resources section as it has a lot of amazing information there that you might be more interested in looking into.

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Re: I don't know anymore - August 19th 2017, 09:09 AM

The secret is to focus on how much you've achieved, instead of how much you've failed.

How long did you go clean before relapsing? That's an achievement!

The other secret is, pretty much the definition of addiction is when people decide they don't want to do drugs anymore, and they discover that they still do it, even after they've decided not to anymore!

This can be very confusing to them, and to other's who don't understand the nature of the problem.

Other people think "Oh just decide to not do it anymore, and don't do it. How simple is that?"

Well turns out it's not simple at all. Because the part of the brain which makes rational decisions such as, "I don't want to do drugs anymore", isn't the part of the brain that becomes addicted.

The frontal cortex is the part that makes rational decisions and can imaging various future consequences. It's the emotional midbrain however, which is the part that becomes addicted.

Stress triggers it. When the midbrain feels stressed, it can literally shut down the frontal cortex and say, "Get me out of this stress! What's going to fix this stress? I know, drugs fix stress. Get me those drugs!" And the person goes off and uses, much to their surprise.

The frontal cortex and midbrain is like a rider on a horse. Who's really in charge? The rider, or the horse? Usually the rider can tell the horse what to do, and the horse complies. However, if the horse gets spooked, the horse can panic and run off on it's own, taking the poor rider along with it, and the rider is no longer in control, at least for a while. The rider eventually regains control of the horse. Who's at fault? The rider or the horse?

So the secret to overcoming addiction is to learn ways to mitigate stress. Patients learn meditation, yoga, qi-gong, tai-chi; and they go to groups, because being in a group of familiar people who all accept you helps trick the midbrain into thinking, "I'm with my tribe. Everything must be OK. I'll relax now." And that's why support groups work. AA, NA, all those groups. That's why they've been around so long.

Sorry most people don't understand this. Anyway, that's the secret. Tell your parents to not stress you, because stress will trigger a relapse.

You're both the rider and the horse. Meditation or meditative motion exercises help strengthen the control the frontal cortex has over the midbrain. It strengthens the frontal cortex's ability to decide if it will react logically or emotionally. Sometimes it's nice to react emotionally. It's also nice to have better control over that choice.

Best wishes!

Oh, and don't call yourself an addict; instead consider yourself "A person who has a problem with addiction". It's a subtle but important difference. If you're a person who has a problem, then the problem can be addressed. If on the other hand you're an addict, then you are the problem, and there's nothing that can be done about it. It's the difference between having a problem, and being the problem. That's why I stress the importance of this little change in thinking.

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