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I can't take this anymore... - January 16th 2009, 02:07 PM

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So some of you may or may not know but I am a recovering alcoholic. I would drink, drink and drink some more, before, during and after school- Virtually whenever I could! Now, lately, I'm being offered and tempted more and more and more to drink and in my head I'm saying no but my body is saying yes, grab that bottle and shotgun! I've been sober since July 19th, 2008. I am proud of it so far, I don't want it to end.

I'm looking for guidance and advice for fighting these demons yet once again, this is driving me insane.

People I go to school with constantly go "Brendan, come out and drink with us tonight!?" I respond "No, I can't, I'm busy." They respond "Oh, pussy!"

It's so unfair, my friends are leaving me because I can't drink. Now I'm going friend-less, almost back into alcohol and fucking nuts!



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Re: I can't take this anymore... - January 16th 2009, 02:20 PM

When I want to use I always occupy myself with something else. I visit forums and such. A real good one to visit where people are always posting is GoLiveWire and TeenHelp. Staying online and trying to stay busy helps me a lot.
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Re: I can't take this anymore... - January 16th 2009, 02:57 PM

Thanks but it's not really filling my time as we have dial-up shared between two computers, so when the folks want the internet they get it... Plus I'm already a member of Live Wire.

I'm filling up my mornings and late nights with working out, that only goes so far though. After my night routine, I can't sleep for a few hours which leads me to wanting to drink.

When I get angry or depressed, first thought "I'm going to go out and get fucked up..."



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Re: I can't take this anymore... - January 17th 2009, 02:09 PM

Make new friends. Or tell your old friends about your drinking problem. find a way to hang out with them that doesn't have to involve drinking, like playing videogames or something
   
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Re: I can't take this anymore... - January 17th 2009, 06:06 PM

They know about my problem, they just ignore it and still ask me to drink and shit. This girl I just met now, she doesn't drink or smoke or any of that so maybe this is the begging of a fresh start and something good...



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Re: I can't take this anymore... - January 18th 2009, 02:05 PM

Hanging around people that are encouraging you to drink is only going to make quitting worse. You need to find friends that will help you quit, not cause you to drink more.
   
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Re: I can't take this anymore... - January 18th 2009, 02:15 PM

Defidently get new friends, if your friends at the moment call you a pussy for not drinking just tell them to shut the fuck up (pardon the language) they arn't good friends if they know that you have this drinking problem but yet ask you if you want a drink. Remember "Friends don't let friends drink" thats not really how it goes but in your case I had to re-write it.


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Re: I can't take this anymore... - January 18th 2009, 02:44 PM

Two words: New. Friends.

If your friends know about your drinking problem and they still are pressuring you to drink they aren't worth your time. It sounds like your new girlfriend could really help you though. Try to find new friends who will support you and not go against you.


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Re: I can't take this anymore... - January 18th 2009, 05:52 PM

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Hanging around people that are encouraging you to drink is only going to make quitting worse. You need to find friends that will help you quit, not cause you to drink more.
I can't help but hang around them, I go to school with them! I'm trying to steer away from them but at this school we're only allowed in TWO rooms.

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Defidently get new friends, if your friends at the moment call you a pussy for not drinking just tell them to shut the fuck up (pardon the language) they arn't good friends if they know that you have this drinking problem but yet ask you if you want a drink. Remember "Friends don't let friends drink" thats not really how it goes but in your case I had to re-write it.
I tried that and I ended up scrapping, thanks though. I'm going tot ry and get new friends.. IT's hard to meet people.

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Two words: New. Friends.

If your friends know about your drinking problem and they still are pressuring you to drink they aren't worth your time. It sounds like your new girlfriend could really help you though. Try to find new friends who will support you and not go against you.
She wasn't my girlfriend, we were seeing each other and last-night I fucked that up. Now I don't know if we're even friends.. I'm trying to find new friends, just don't kno where to look haha



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Re: I can't take this anymore... - January 18th 2009, 06:26 PM

Joining clubs or after school activities is a good place to start looking for new friends. As for getting rid of the old ones, a firm "I think it would be better if we went our separate ways" would probably send a clear message to them that you no longer want to be associated with them.
   
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Re: I can't take this anymore... - January 18th 2009, 06:36 PM

just try to stay busy and if your friends are leaving you cause your doing the right thing by trying to better yourself and your life then screw them they are not your true friends true friends would not pressure you into drinking again when they know you are trying tos top keep your head up and sourround yourself with new people make new friends that stay away from drinking
   
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Re: I can't take this anymore... - January 19th 2009, 08:01 AM

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Joining clubs or after school activities is a good place to start looking for new friends. As for getting rid of the old ones, a firm "I think it would be better if we went our separate ways" would probably send a clear message to them that you no longer want to be associated with them.
Yeah, some of the friends left without me saying anything which was a good thing in one way and a bad thing in another. The ones that are left who encourage me to drink an do drugs, I'll tell them that immediatly.

What type of clubs and stuff would you recommend? I go to a school with 12 Kids for the year, which is why I don't have extra curricular activites and such that are associated through the school. Plus, I don't feel like playing foot-ball with angry, alcholic, cocaine addict teens :P

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just try to stay busy and if your friends are leaving you cause your doing the right thing by trying to better yourself and your life then screw them they are not your true friends true friends would not pressure you into drinking again when they know you are trying tos top keep your head up and sourround yourself with new people make new friends that stay away from drinking
Yeah, right now being busy for me is working out or being online and it's the only way I can avoid being in a situation where I am tempted to drink. I'm finding it hard though.

Hopefully I can surround myself around new people and make new friends, plus stay away from drinking.

It wouldn't be bad if I was just there and they were drinking, it's just bad when they keep going "Drink, c'mon, oh fuck you you're a pussy!" e.t.c



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