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This is a problem - March 10th 2009, 01:05 PM

Over the weekend I got drunk (again) and I did something terrible to my gf, I beat her. She is extremely pissed at me know, she broke up with me and now I don't know what to say to her. I still want to be with her, but I am not sure what to do now. Help please.


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Re: This is a problem - March 10th 2009, 01:10 PM

Frankly, I don't think there is anything you can do, you beat her, you seriously broke her trust in you. It's an unforgivable thing, and you can't promise you'll never do it again.
I suggest moving on, and perhaps not drinking if it is going to make you violent.


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Re: This is a problem - March 10th 2009, 04:58 PM

If you turn violent when you're drunk then you need to think about not drinking for a while, or at least cutting back so you're not at the point where your personality changes because of the drink. As for your girlfriend, to be honest i don't blame her for breaking up with you, beating someone isn't something that you're easily going to be forgiven for, especially your own girlfriend. I guess if you're insistant on trying to get her back, give it a go, but i doubt it'll get you very far.


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Re: This is a problem - March 10th 2009, 10:16 PM

Being a violent drunk, especially if you end up doing something like you have done can but a huge wake up call. There really isn't anything you can do about your girlfriend unfortunately, doing something to harm her is a huge red flag and a girl doesn't want to be with someone who may fly off the handle, even if it was only because of your drinking. I think you should take this as a sign that drinking may not be the best thing for you; you know the consequences of you drinking and they aren't good, you never know what could result from your drinking next time.


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Re: This is a problem - March 10th 2009, 10:29 PM

The only thing you can do is stop drinking, if it makes you lose control enough for you to beat your girlfriend, you obviously have a problem with it...so change it. You cant erase what you have done, and your girlfriend may never forgive you because you have broken the trust you two had. And even if she sees you changing it doesnt mean that you wont get drunk again and beat her again. However, if you change then you can move on, and it will be better for you, even if she wont get back with you.
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