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I've just spent the last two weeks with my father in CO, I love my father and always have despite the terrible things my mother says about him. I also love my mother to death, despite the things she says. But my mother lied to me about many things relating to my father and his family, that caused relations to be terrible. I know our relationship is going to be strongly strained from now on. Next year I'm going to be in Germany for ten months, and when it gets closer to be leaving I'm going to tell my mom that I do not want to finish high school with her, but with my father instead. I want to get to know my father better and I want to live out west and I want to go to college in CO, but how do I deal with my mother being hurt?

[.:BreakingBeautifully:.]

Hey there,

I think it is great that you were able to spend some time with your dad! I am sorry you found out that your mom hasn't been 100% honest with you about some things. I know that sometimes that happens when parents split up and all of that. As for you question; I don't think there is a 'good' way to deal with handling your mom being hurt. The truth of the matter is she is probably going to be hurt by your decision but you have every right to do what you feel is best for you. Sometimes the decisions we make in life are going to hurt the people we love and that is okay because we cannot live life for other people. That being said, I think it is important for you to let your mom know how important she is to you and explain to her you desire to get to know your dad and his side of your family. Let her know that your decision has nothing to do with her being a bad parent and everything to do with you wanting to explore the relationship with your dad. This could definitely help her with the transition.

I hope this helped and I am wishing you the best of luck.