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Oh no - April 10th 2009, 02:18 PM

Oh no, oh no OH NO.

(Recap: My ex came back after a year not being in contact and he's totally changed and my feelings all came rushing back and he doesn't even want to talk to me anymore, just wants to play mind games)

My ex text me last night and i was drunk cause id been out with a friend and i cant remember exactly what i said but i remember starting a fight with him cause i was still angry that he doesn't seem to give a shit about me anymore.

I eventually rang him and i kept trying to yell at him to say how i felt but he said, "You dont still love me anymore do you?" So i felt stupid and kept changing the subject but would go right back to yelling at him. He said that he'd changed and i don't like the fact that he's changed and he said "Katie, just go throw up and stop being a bitch" He KNOWS ive had bulimia and he still says that?! He kept saying that i never gave a shit about him when we went out and he knows thats a lie but he still says it so eventually i said "I dont know why i ever gave a shit about you so dont ever talk to me again, delete me off your phone and i'll do the same".


I have fucked up my chances of ever getting close to him again, all because i was pissed off with the way he's been acting ever since i got back in contact with him.


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Re: Oh no - April 10th 2009, 05:18 PM

hey katie.

here's a fact.

guys who say all that, and dont understand your feelings , arent worth talking to. Especially the part where he said mean stuff about you throwing up, that was certainly uncalled for. He has no sensitivity towards your feelings inside him, and hence, is not worth for you to try talking back to. I'm sure that there're many better guys out there who will care for you more and talk with more sensitivity

and the thing is a guy who is mean like that, no matter what, is just going to hurt the people they get in contact in. If he's EVEN a good ex-boyfriend, he wont play these mind games with you because they WOULD care about your feelings deeply. Since he's playing mind games with you, that's certainly NOT the case

find another person who's better than him, i'm sure there're plenty.

You deserve someone who listens and cares for you unconditionally, and wont say things like that which hurt you and bring heartbreak.

and in case you need some more advice , or just a friend to talk to, remember that we're always around


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Re: Oh no - April 10th 2009, 10:51 PM

Its easy to say that but see when we went out he was a totally different person, he was sweet, funny, caring, trusting and the things we would do were so great.

I don't know if he's just pissed off because i didn't speak to him for a year cause he was telling me he was devastated and it took him ages to get over me. When we were arguing one of the things he said was "See when i went to talk to Sarah, you know how you felt? Thats what i felt but 10 times worse when i didnt speak to you for a year!" Maybe he's just doing all this stuff because he wants me to feel upset etc.?

I want to tell him that my feelings have came back but how stupid does that sound if you know what i mean?

I havn't spoke to him for a year.
I hurt him really badly when i dropped contact.
Now all of a sudden im crushing over him again?

He'd either laugh or yell at me.


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Re: Oh no - April 11th 2009, 05:01 AM

katie,

you know, the guy who really cares about your feelings , even after everything seems over, ONLY is worth it. This is because if he truly cared about you last time, there would have already been some kind of sensitive connection formed during that time that will make him think twice before doing anything to hurt your feelings.

i believe that if he has a caring side to him, that will supercede the emotional hurt that it has brought to him, because if he TRULY is a caring bf, OR ex-bf ,he will think of your feelings in some way before doing things like these, mind games in which you clearly are going to get hurt.

and the thing to remember here is that TRUE MEN really know what matters most. And clearly, the fact that he's hurting your feelings and all actually shows that he's someone who lets their emotional hurt control them and clouds their judgement. If he seriously is a good,caring bf, he shouldnt even gave let his emotions control what he's doing because he WILL realize that is the thing that causes emotional hurt to you.

take this from a guy... the REALLY good bfs (or even ex-bfs) take their gf or ex-gfs feelings into consideration before doing anything . Deep down inside, if the guy cares for a girlfriend, he should have a sensitive spot for her whether or not they're still together. He clearly doesnt have that.

find someone else... and move on. =) there's much better people out there.


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