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Unhappy I don't think she understands - September 13th 2012, 05:33 PM

I feel like I'm loosing my best friend.

When I talk to her, she often gives me short answers and it's difficult to have a conversation with someone who doesn't continue the conversation.

I haven't been texting her as much as I should be, but I spend quite a lot of my time doing coursework and at college/work placement, but that's still not an excuse and I feel bad. And quite often, when I do have some time, I don't text her because I'm tired and don't want to seem annoyed at her because I can't think straight. I know it's my fault, not hers. I want to apologise and speak to her about it, but I doubt she even wants to.

And another things, I am really not one to initiate a conversation with anyone - the only person I do that freely with is my mum (I don't even talk freely with my boyfriend) - and I think it's because of my Asperges, but I'm not sure. I just think that if people want to talk to me, they will. And even though I want to talk to my friend, I don't want to feel like I'm bothering her, which is how I feel when I get short answers.

I just don't know what to do or how to explain any of this to her without her thinking that I'm using it as an excuse.

It just makes me so depressed when I think of loosing her as a friend.

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Re: I don't think she understands - September 15th 2012, 08:59 PM

You can't help it if classes/studying/work placement limit your opportunities to hang out with or talk to your friend. That's not really an excuse - it's just a fact. What IS an excuse, in my opinion, is admitting that your Asperger's leads you to think other people should initiate contact, but you know that contacting your friend first may be the best course of action. So, now that you've identified the excuse, are you going to keep using it, or do something unexpected? Call your friend, or text her, and apologize for not being in contact more often. Explain how busy you are, but that you miss her and would like to meet up with her sometime in the near future. Ask her what times/days are convenient for her, and do what you can with what she offers you. If she wants to say something in return (ex. "You're a crappy friend"), she will. If she's happy with how you handled the situation, she'll be responsive.

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