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Friends teasing me - October 8th 2012, 06:54 PM

I only have like three or so friends, I'm kind of shy, but they're really good friends and stuff and I do like them. Yeah but they're always teasing me about how I have a whiny voice and I'm really short. I am really short, I'm shorter than all of them and they're all girls, and I don't think they realize how much it bothers me. I've told them it bothers me a lot but they don't seem to get how it's wrong because they say being short is not a bad thing, but to me it is and I really hate it, it keeps me up at night thinking about it and makes me feel really anxious, so some advice on getting them to stop and helping myself not worry about being short would be helpful, thanks.
   
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Re: Friends teasing me - October 9th 2012, 01:17 PM

You are only fifteen, so tell them you'll grow soon, you probably haven't hit your groth spurt or acheived puberty yet, so your voice will change, you will grow taller. Girls often think oh it's just a spot of fun, it won't do anything, he's a guy he'll laugh it off.
Don't get wound up on it, just laugh it off. Don't stew on it because you will grow, guys most of the time hit puberty later than females. Hell, my uncle didn't hit puberty till he was eighteen.

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Re: Friends teasing me - October 10th 2012, 05:52 PM

I've just broke 5'6", so I understand what you mean. It seems the whole "puberty" thing is basically done with me. Honestly though, if you biggest flaw is being short, then you've got quite a lot of positive things in your life.

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Re: Friends teasing me - October 11th 2012, 12:59 AM

You're 15, so you still have plenty of time to grow taller. Your voice can still change, too. My brother kept growing until he was about 22 - it all depends on the individual. The next time they tease you, try to laugh it off. If they see that it bothers you, they might find it fun to keep teasing you. Hopefully they'll realize that it's getting old and they'll find something else to talk about.
   
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Re: Friends teasing me - October 11th 2012, 02:21 AM

Zemie, the fact that your close friends are all girls may be getting in the way of their empathy here. In the West there's no cultural expectation for women to be tall, and in fact there's often just the opposite. Men, on the other hand, are expected to be tall and buff. Guys who don't conform to that expectation can feel just as down about themselves as women who don't meet the unrealistic and unhealthy expectation that they all be twig-thin runway models. This simply may not be something they can relate to, so it's harder for them to "get" how it feels when they tease you about this. I don't necessarily recommend this because you might hit a raw nerve, but you could bring up the teasing to them in body-image terms that are more relatable to them. Use your best judgment here, you know your friends better than some guy on the internet.

The other posters around here are right that you've got a lot of time left to grow. I won't belabor the point except to say that even if you don't get the growth spurt you're looking for, you can help your body image in other ways. Do you exercise? You're at the age now when you can get a ton of benefit for relatively little work compared to what people in their twenties and beyond have to put in, and being in shape does wonders for your self-esteem and confidence. Guys with smaller frames can often develop compact but very muscular physiques without a lot of trouble. My shortest male friend never broke 5' 8" or so, but he started working out and taking judo in high school, and he has a killer body.
   
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