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Unhappy I need someone to turn to - November 10th 2012, 11:14 PM

Firstly, I would like to note that I am not sure if this is the correct forum to place this in if not, I apologize.

Well, I guess I'll start at the beginning. My sister asked me to go grab something from her room before we headed out to dinner a couple weeks ago, while looking for it a piece of paper fell out of one of her drawers. On the piece of paper I learned of a conversation between my sister and mother about an abortion and of the giving up of a child for adoption both of which my mother had before my sister and I were born, of which I knew nothing about and honestly I wish I never learned about. I wasn't sure how to react to this initially but I was completely shocked. A couple days ago I texted my sister about it and she denied knowing anything about it, I was very frank in asking, had mom been pregnant before her and I, and she just said IDK. I really don't know who I can turn to to talk about this, I have lost all trust in my sister over the matter, and I really do not want to talk to my parents about it. As far as friends go after entering high school all of my friends from my old school just faded away. I only have one true friend who I feel confident in talking to about this matter, but I'm worried I might lose her as a friend if I try and ask for help. I really want to get this off my chest and have someone to talk to about it, because ever since I found the paper I just haven't felt the same. So I guess what I'm asking is who do I turn to, because right now all I need is a friend who can help me through this.

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Re: I need someone to turn to - November 11th 2012, 12:46 AM

Honestly, I would talk to your mom about it. I know that this will be a hard and potentially uncomfortable conversation for you especially if you are super close to your mom. But I think that she is really the only person who will be able to give you the answers you need here. Even if your sister was going to give you the answers (and I'd wonder WHY she isn't comfortable telling you about it) it still wouldn't be worth the same as if you just went and heard your mother out. I don't think any of your friends will really be able to put your conerns to rest, all they will really be able to do is sympathize and that's not what your looking for is it? You CAN ask your mom why. Just let her know you want to talk. And knowing why will probably be (at least the start) in your getting past what you now know




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Re: I need someone to turn to - November 13th 2012, 09:25 PM

Well I think your best bet is to seek guidance from your counselor at school. Talk to him/her and express how you feel. I would also talk to him/her about maybe confronting your mother. Sounds stupid? Well I find that most of the time when we are upset/mad about something and we keep it a secret or to ourselves, it comes out when we don't want it to. In fact, it usually comes out when we are mad at that person, and then we say it and it leads to alot of drama, and a whole amount of unnecessary stress. So your best bet is to just simply talk to her about it even though it may be uncomfortable. Communication is key.


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