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Do you think that its possible to have friends without similar interests? - January 11th 2009, 08:49 PM

I've recently made a new friend that I've tried to get closer, and I've been to his house once but at school, it seems like we have nothing to talk about and he hates small talk so he just basically avoids me in school. Our topics of discussion seem to have faded away or something, its weird. The only time we spend time together now is on PS3, and the only communication we make is "Oh, I just shot that guy." or "Darn, I died!". I haven't had a decent conversation with him since I went to his house. I've been trying to ask if I can come over or for him to come over to mine, but I am kind of insecure with people coming into my house.

Is it more comfortable when people come to someone else's house instead of their own?

And do you guys think that its possible to be friends without similar interests?

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Re: Do you think that its possible to have friends without similar interests? - January 11th 2009, 08:56 PM

I find it more comfortable for friends to come over to my house. Simply because it's an atmosphere I'm used to. I know the rules, I know the people, I know everything. I can feel free in my own home. I know, after sometime at a friends house, it becomes much easier to spend time there. So, I think, at first it's easier to have people over. But, to be able to become comfortable in their place, you need to be over there more.

I believe it's possible for people without much in common to be able to be friends. It allows you two to share different opinions on everything, yea? Maybe you can introduce each other to new and exciting things. Possibly you can make a connection there. You two have something in common, you both play ps3. There's a start. I realize you might want more things to talk about, but, you might have to work with that you've got right now. Try discussing things around the ps3 and then move on once you know more. It's easier that way, once you both find common ground.

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Re: Do you think that its possible to have friends without similar interests? - January 11th 2009, 09:13 PM

It's more comfortable when you're still at an early stage in your friendship to be at your own house. You know where everything is, you don't have to add to the uncomfortable or shy feeling you might feel, so I think that your house is better till you feel a little more comfortable with your new friend.

& As for having a friend with different interests, I do think that it takes a bit more effort to have a good friendship, but I think it is possible. Sometimes it's boring when you have the exact same interest as your friend, so in a way its a good thing. Because, yeah, you can introduce each other to things that you enjoy, that they've never tried before. I'm sure it will work out just fine






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Re: Do you think that its possible to have friends without similar interests? - January 12th 2009, 07:27 AM

I don't socialise alot so...I'm just going on my limited experience but I find it easier to stay in my own house because you're in familiar surroundings and you don't feel uneasy. Plus you're with people you know and you won't have to face talking to other members of the house.

I have a friend that I'm the complete opposite of and we still get on quite well. We have our arguements once in awhile but who doesn't? It just depends on whether you LIKE the person or not and whether you like spending time with them.


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Re: Do you think that its possible to have friends without similar interests? - January 12th 2009, 10:08 AM

Of course most of my friends and I have nothing in common to start it off most of them are guys. Lol we start a fight over what to watch on tv and then end up flipping to watch each others shows on the commercial break. But then laugh about it later and then it brings us closer.
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Re: Do you think that its possible to have friends without similar interests? - January 14th 2009, 05:08 PM

I don't know why, it seems like I'm a minority, but I prefer going to friend's houses. In fact, most of my friends have never been inside my house, even some of the ones I've known for a few years. But honestly, my friends usually just go places to hang out. We hang out at houses occasionally, but a lot of the time we go to pizza or ice cream or to festivals and such.

As for interests, we all have a lot of different interests. I'm friends with a few people who are practically opposites of me, and friends with people who are practically twins. All that really matters is enjoying each other's company. And sometimes it's fun to have a friend you can debate with or a friend who can give you a different perspective on something. So, yes, I definitely think it's possible to be friends with someone who doesn't have similar interests.


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Re: Do you think that its possible to have friends without similar interests? - January 14th 2009, 05:15 PM

i much prefer going to friends houses rather than them coming to mine, although this is probably because i have a crazy and rather embarassing family.
i think it is possible to have friends who don't share similar interests, in fact quite a few of my friends don't have similar interests to me.


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Re: Do you think that its possible to have friends without similar interests? - January 14th 2009, 10:13 PM

not to sound all pessimistic, but friendships have to be built around a common intrest. it gives you something to talk about if you both share the same passion. I find the friends i meet doing activities i enjoy are usuallly the best friends. I've tried being friends with people i don't have anything in common with and the friendship quickly fades away.
   
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