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Exclamation Interrogated..by my friend's mum - April 19th 2009, 07:41 PM

Ok, so here's the story in a nutshell.

My friend, let's call her 'C', bought her prom dress and showed it me. She told me not to tell anyone what colour it was or what it looked like. I agreed, thinking perhaps she was being a tad melodramatic, she wanted to 'shock' everyone. Her mother said if i did blab, she'd 'hunt me down.' She said it in quite a jokey way, but from previous experiance, i knew it was far from it.

Ok, so yesterday, I slept over at a friends house with C and another girl. C brought up prom dresses and the other two started asking her about hers. She said she had one but wasn't going to tell them what it looked like. They pestered and pestered and then they started guessing. One got it eright first guess and i just burst out laughing. I figured, by now it was pretty obvious that she'd guessed correctly, so i confirmed it with a simple 'yes.' My friend wasn't ecstatic exactly, but she wasn't upset exactly, i aplogised and we didn't talk about it again.

So tonight, i recieve a text from her mother saying how 'disappointed' she was and that she 'no longer trusts me.' I apologised yet again, but then had her talking to me on facebook through her daughters account, teling me i was 'heartless.'

Now, i do think this is a slight overreaction. Yes, i was in the wrong, i acept the responsiblity on my part, but personally, i find it quite odd frankly, that her mother feels the need to fight these petty little battles that her daughter could fight easily on her own. Theres something uncomfortable about it...its just not something i would do, at least not to that extent or for something as trivial if i was a parent.

Previously i've fallen out with this woman before, but usually we get on quite well. I think this is more of a rant really than a plea for advice, but has anyone had any similar experiances and how did you react?


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Re: Interrogated..by my friend's mum - April 19th 2009, 11:19 PM

Hey Nat,

I can't say I've gone through this, but I just wanted to tell you to just ignore your friend's mother! It sounds like you can handle it yourself, but you should really stop apologizing. I mean, it's a dress for goodness sakes! Talking about a dress makes you 'heartless'? Come on!

I think your friend's mom is taking it more to heart than your friend. Don't let it get to you. She's blowing this way out of proportion, and I'm sure your friend doesn't think the same as her mom. That's probably why she doesn't want to fight this little battle. She might not see it as one at all.

This actually makes me laugh I hope you can laugh it off with your friend too

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Re: Interrogated..by my friend's mum - April 20th 2009, 02:26 AM

I agree with just ignoring her.
Try to always hang out at your house or somewhere other than her house from here on out.


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Re: Interrogated..by my friend's mum - April 20th 2009, 02:37 AM

I'm definitely with Nat on that one; it doesn't sound like your friend was too bothered, and really it's not that big a deal. I have no idea why her mum would be blowing it so far out of proportion, but whatever reason she has, it's her problem and not yours. If she persists with it, give her a piece of your mind, or simply ignore her, whichever you feel is best. But you've certainly satisfied courtesy, and you've got nothing left to apologize for.


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Re: Interrogated..by my friend's mum - April 20th 2009, 05:43 PM

Thanks for the help guys The friend does seem quite bothered about it now and we were kinda distant today at school, but no probs, i'm sure we'll be back to normal before the week is out

Thankies for the advice, yet again


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