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Unhappy Torn Between Two - April 20th 2009, 06:05 PM

One of my bestfriends lets call her J. She got a boyfriend called E and they we're a good couple, everyone said so, they we're happy. Then he dumped her and obviously like most girls, you get that unhappy emotional period. (I think, I don't understand dating)

Well she wanted to know why he broke up with her, and I said If I ever found out I would tell her she still curious. Today because of Lessons and something like that. Me and E ended up in the Libary and we we're talking and he told me why he broke up with her and he said

"Because she a little bigger than me"
"She has hair on her chin"
"and I stopped loving her"

I said to him apart from the loving thing because (some teenagers are fickle) those are pretty shallow reasons. He said well "I'm a shallow guy" I sat on my seat, shocked but I couldn't do much.
So now I don't really know what to do. If I tell J the truth she might do something she might regret I've been in that position where words hurt.
However I promised her I would tell her because she really wanted to know.
Although I promised E as well, I would say anything.


But I know how words can hurt, I aslo know if things are kept hidden for long they will eventually find away out.
Who shall I tell, What should I do?
I am tempeted to tell my Bestfriend J. But I promised E I wouldn't...


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Re: Torn Between Two - April 20th 2009, 09:39 PM

Hey Nico,

Wow, that guy is a shallow jerk! I can't believe he would say such things to you about your friend.

What I would suggest is to not tell your friend what he said. This is not because you made a promise to him, but that it would hurt your friend more than help her with this. Those weren't nice things for him to say, and I don't think you should get caught in the middle of them.

What you can say, however, is that if she really wants to know, then she should ask him. It's not your job to figure these things out for her. Your friend can ask this guy herself. He'll probably just say he didn't feel anything for her anymore, and that would hurt less than a low blow about her appearance. You can be there to comfort her, but it wouldn't be worth being the bearer of bad news and hurting her like that.

You're a good friend for being so concerned for her. Do what you think is right

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Re: Torn Between Two - April 21st 2009, 07:09 PM

Well being honest I'm not going to say anything, Its not really my business.
I spoke to my counciller today, she said the same thing
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Re: Torn Between Two - April 22nd 2009, 04:20 PM

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One of my bestfriends lets call her J. She got a boyfriend called E and they we're a good couple, everyone said so, they we're happy. Then he dumped her and obviously like most girls, you get that unhappy emotional period. (I think, I don't understand dating)

Well she wanted to know why he broke up with her, and I said If I ever found out I would tell her she still curious. Today because of Lessons and something like that. Me and E ended up in the Libary and we we're talking and he told me why he broke up with her and he said

"Because she a little bigger than me"
"She has hair on her chin"
"and I stopped loving her"

I said to him apart from the loving thing because (some teenagers are fickle) those are pretty shallow reasons. He said well "I'm a shallow guy" I sat on my seat, shocked but I couldn't do much.
So now I don't really know what to do. If I tell J the truth she might do something she might regret I've been in that position where words hurt.
However I promised her I would tell her because she really wanted to know.
Although I promised E as well, I would say anything.

But I know how words can hurt, I aslo know if things are kept hidden for long they will eventually find away out.
Who shall I tell, What should I do?
I am tempeted to tell my Bestfriend J. But I promised E I wouldn't...

Torn Between Two
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