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Unhappy Taking my dad to court: Domestic Violence, Death Threats and Pedophilia - April 25th 2009, 11:52 PM


It taken me about 5 hours to get the courage to send this post...Right here goes:

I had a breakdown a couple of days ago because of my depression, i just couldn't cope.. i felt like everything i touched turned to shit, everyone was against me and everything was a waste of time and effort. Ive not told anyone about my dad and kept everyone that wasn't family in the dark.. not like my family would believe my side of the story anyways... plus i am getting getting referred to a health clinic to find the route of my problem... so i am going to break the habit now.

My dad is a bastard! hes one of those people who mentally bully you and laugh at you until you cant take anymore of it, then you start to argue which gives him his excuse to hit you (he was so good at it he could hit you and not even make a mark). the worse times were when he was drunk.. he would get bladdered wait for my mum to go out and then come to my room and hassle me about my room being untidy and i would have to get up and tidy it, if i didn't there would be arguments..also about college saying stuff like "what you going to be when you leave college? your going to be a tramp like your friends parents, sit in the pub on a afternoon while we all work our arses off, parasites!"

One day he came home from work (14th of December 2008), had a couple of cans and started to scream at me because i didn't have a job, i raise my voice and sweared back at him and he smacked me and pushed me, in self defense i hit him back until he winded me in stomach for me to stop because i had enough and rang the police, they came arrested him and took me away to my friends house because he had a spare room (and i wouldn't leave my computer)

Couple of days later i heard he pleaded not guilty and i had to go to court in march (15th march).. i couldn't believe it.. i had no evidence, my only witness was my sister and she was too young to give evidence in court. and i found out my mother made a statement and she didn't even see it happen! she only saw when i was on the floor as my sister was helping me up...so in a fit of anger i went to the police and made a confession, i had to dig up some dirt on my dad so i could get him back, i was homeless, moneyless and depressed so i told them about my dads biggest secret...his porn....

I was about 16 and i was on his computer playing games when i went on to a downloading site called Limewire, i downloaded a song and when it finished it disappeared... i went to go find it in the location file when i came across the saved folder, i presumed it was in there so i opened it... it was there along with videos, about 20 of them...all porn..all children...i didn't know exactly what it was until i opened it.... i screamed, cried and threw up, i couldn't believe it my dad! the person who brought me up could desire such filth..a fucking pedo!

He started harassing my friend Danielle when i just turned 18.. her boyfriend went crazy at me telling me to tell my dad to fuck off and leave her alone..she broke down and told me he had been doing it for ages since she could remember, saying that was the reason why she never could come round to sleep over because he used to wait until i had gone out the room and he would come in and watch her get dressed and wank.. which turned me back to thinking about the porn which i managed to mental block out of my life and i knew it was still there..

I told the police in my confession about Danielle but i had no case if she wouldn't come forward.. So that following day they took it his computer away without him knowing when he was at work... i don't know what happened that day exactly but he was very angry, my sister phoned me crying saying Ive messed everything up and dads going to kill you. the same night i got a phone call off my dad, drunk and pissed off, he started saying he was going to stab and shoot me and get me when my back is turned and when no one is looking, so i recorded it lol and gave it to the police... i got my mobile took off me for evidence but it was worth it

The domestic violence case, charges of battery and assault, were dropped because there wasn't enough evidence to commit him, which made me go into more bad depression... watching him as he walked out of the court room smiling shouting abuse down the street ... its been a few month now and nothing has come back about its computer so the waiting is killing me.... the death threats gave him a caution because he broke his bail so i don't know whats happening with that now.. i feel like the police has just broken all contact with me and he knows more then me.

During that time i lodged with my friend until February, i then moved into homeless accommodation called Haddon Lodge were i have my own flat and I'm still there with full security, its safe but its crap and now because i am taking anti-depressants they treating me like i am going to kill myself or something stupid like that...this by far has to be the shittest year in my LIFE! My dad fed the family lies so they think i hit my mum so that's what started the argument..and he got his computer taken because its broken.. my mum is too upset to see me and my sister cant see me because my dad threatened her.

I feel like such a fuck up, why me? why do i have to have the crazy/sick parents? i just hate myself and everyone who doesn't believe me or is on his side. [RANT OVER]

Support would be ace people (sorry if anything upset you)
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Re: Taking my dad to court: Domestic Violence, Death Threats and Pedophilia - April 26th 2009, 12:28 AM

Hey well, well done for telling people.
That was really brave
I'm sorry you're having such a tough time
If you ever need to just chat you can pm me and rant and vent to me
Well done again,


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It's not always easy, but McFly's here forever
I know you believe me, when you look into my eyes
'Cause McFly never dies, because The Heart Never Lies!"
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Re: Taking my dad to court: Domestic Violence, Death Threats and Pedophilia - April 26th 2009, 12:51 AM

I'm not sure if I can give a whole lot of advice but I want you to know that I read your story and I hope everything turns out well for you. I think you did the right thing by reporting your dad to the authorities. It sucks that nothing good has come out of it yet, but I bet something is going on with the computer, otherwise they probably would have dismissed it by now. Stay safe and stay away from your dad, you probably can't be sure if his threats were serious. Good luck!
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