Support Forums Today's Posts

Get Advice Connect with TeenHelp Resources
HelpLINK Facebook     Twitter     Tumblr     Instagram    Hotlines    Safety Zone    Alternatives

You are not registered or have not logged in

Hello guest! (Not a guest? Log in above!)

As a guest on TeenHelp you are only able to use some of our site's features. By registering an account you will be able to enjoy unlimited access to our site, and will be able to:

  • Connect with thousands of teenagers worldwide by actively taking part in our Support Forums and Chat Room.
  • Find others with similar interests in our Social Groups.
  • Express yourself through our Blogs, Picture Albums and User Profiles.
  • And much much more!

Signing up is free, anonymous and will only take a few moments, so click here to register now!

Friends and Family Everyone has disagreements, even best friends and family. If you need advice about a relationship, ask us here.

Closed Thread
Thread Tools Search this Thread
  (#1 (permalink)) Old
shufflebug360 Offline
Awesome gal!!
Welcome me, I'm new!
shufflebug360's Avatar
Name: Olivia
Gender: Female

Posts: 16
Blog Entries: 1
Join Date: October 14th 2013

Help me-should I break this friendship? - October 14th 2013, 04:57 AM

Help, I have got this best friend that keeps hitting me... I love her to bits and we always do EVERYTHING together and I practically live at her house but she keeps hitting me for example: I would say something jokingly like "hey breanna, that cute guy is mine.." then she would elbow me in the boob or slap me across the face or like today she just out of the blue slapped me really hard across the face and I laughed and said stuff like what was that for? And then she did it again by then I was like seriously, stop it. But, u wouldn't believe this but she did it again then I was like that's not cool, stop it. Then she slapped me for the fourth time within 5 minutes. By this time I was yelling at her to stop it and her bf and everything was watching me getting b*tch slapped(my bf was there to) and he just stood there and watched. Also I would say something and she would go tell my bf and when she tells me something I keep it a secret. I said something that was obviously slightly insulting(I can't remember) and she just stormed off and threatened to tell every single secret to everyone in the school. I just got sick and tired of this so I threatened to tell her bf about something she said and she(she insults me all the time and I just brush it off) stormed off again and I can tell this is going to go on for a while because she holds grudges. But don't get me wrong she is my best friend and she is the only one in my school that can pick me up when the world seems to be crumbling beneath me and when say my bf brakes up with me and stuff like that... So the question is do I break this friendship? Or should I leave it I don't want to hurt her feelings because she is VERY sensitive how do I tell her to stop(cause she won't listen) without hurting her feelings?

  (#2 (permalink)) Old
Thereishope Offline
Skittles Minion & Fish Thrower
I can't get enough
Thereishope's Avatar
Name: Michael
Age: 37
Gender: Male
Location: Maine, USA

Posts: 2,781
Blog Entries: 76
Join Date: November 9th 2012

Re: Help me-should I break this friendship? - October 14th 2013, 06:14 AM

Just be up front with her. Tell her you don't like how she treats you and that she needs to stop. Also if she won't stop, I'd might suggest telling her parents how she treats you or at least an authoritative adult. Hope I've helped some and I hope you get this worked out soon!
  (#3 (permalink)) Old
Chris Offline
Outside, huh?
Chris's Avatar
Name: Chris
Age: 24
Gender: Male
Location: Illinios

Posts: 4,247
Blog Entries: 3
Join Date: November 28th 2011

Re: Help me-should I break this friendship? - October 14th 2013, 10:18 PM

Hi Olivia!

First off, welcome to TeenHelp!

In regards to the situation you are in, this is an example of abuse within a friendship. We often view abuse as only getting it from parents, or from a partner, but you can really get abused from anyone within your life: including best friends. This is a sign of verbal, and psychical abuse. For example, you said she practically blackmails you when you tell her ssomething, or she has no filter and decides to tell everyone about it (including your boyfriend). This is a sign or verbal abuse (to a more mild extent). However, in regards to the hitting, and slapping even after you told her to stop (and said stop in a authoritative way & she still refused), that is a more moderate physical abuse.

Sure, she may not be doing it on purpose, and maybe the physical aspect of things is apart of her nature (ie: that is how she interacts with people/friends); but that doesn't mean you need to accept it, or that you shouldn't say anything.

What would I do? I would talk to her one last time. Tell her that you aren't a fan of the physical stuff, and you don't like it when she hits you - even if it's playful. In regards to the verbal stuff, tell her that you always are willing to talk to her, and keep her secrets and it's only fair if she does the same. If after you talk to her, things don't start to improve, you need to make a hard decision. Either to continue to deal with the abusive things she puts out, or move on and try to seek a more successful and healthy friendship.

Best wishes,

I hope you know that you deserve it all. The best, the most honest, the most beautiful purest love in the world. Not only to be loved by others, but to be loved by yourself. To look in the mirror and think "Yes, I'm exactly who I want to be". To speak up and be proud of yourself. To be brave and open. You deserve the nicest and most caring people to walk into your life. You deserve it all, you know. The whole world...
1 user(s) liked this post or found it helpful.
  (#4 (permalink)) Old
Skeleton Offline
Outside, huh?
Skeleton's Avatar
Name: Charlie
Age: 29
Gender: Female
Location: UK.

Posts: 4,545
Join Date: January 6th 2009

Re: Help me-should I break this friendship? - October 14th 2013, 10:45 PM

You need to be honest with her and tell her that you aren't happy with how she is treating you. You're best friends and yet she thinks it's okay to physically and verbally abuse you as well as tell people things you've told her in secret when you've never do that to her. If she keeps it up, I'd consider whether or not it is worth carrying on being friends with someone like that, you may be the bestest of friends but she shouldn't be treating you like that and she should stop if you tell her too, you could find a friend who wouldn't treat you like that.
Closed Thread


break, friendship, meshould

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

All material copyright 1998-2019, TeenHelp.
Terms | Legal | Privacy | Conduct | Complaints

Powered by vBulletin®.
Copyright ©2000-2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search engine optimization by vBSEO.
Theme developed in association with vBStyles.