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Thumbs down Why can't I tell her? - December 30th 2013, 06:53 AM

I'm in love with two people. One is my straight best friend, and the other is my bisexual best friend. My straight friend does not approve of me being bi and therefore hates my bi best friend for 'changing' me. My bi best friend hates my straight best friend for not supporting me. I am so confused. I'm in love with both of them. I have no hope of dating my straight best friend and if I date my bi best friend I'm afraid my straight best friend will abandon me. God I sound pathetic, even to myself. I would stop hanging out with my straight best friend but I can't imagine life without her. I can't imagine life without my bi best friend either. I'm so confused and need help PRONTO!!! I can't tell either at risk of losing there friendship but can't go on like this!

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Re: Why can't I tell her? - December 30th 2013, 08:15 AM

Well if our straight best friend and is a true friend she will surport you but you could try asking her what is her problem if there is one because there could be something she doesn't want to say that's why she's so against it but if she has already told you why she's so against it then work it out with her
   
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Re: Why can't I tell her? - December 31st 2013, 06:24 AM

Hi, there.

Well it sounds like you're in a pretty hard situation. To be truthfully honest, if a friend doesn't support your kind of lifestyle, then they aren't your friend. Being age 13 (yeah I use to hate when people threw age at me too) the people who are in your life (friend-wise) will most likely not be in your life when you go to college. With that being said, teens at the age of 13 are irrational, immature, and very unpredictable - so you can't always assure that you will be able to maintain both friendships forever.

My advice would be to do what your heart tells you to do. If you heart is telling you to be with your bi-sexual friend, than start dating her. Your wellbeing and happiness should always be placed before someone elses and your real friends would support you with any choices you do make (even if they don't agree with all of them). Don't allow others to dictate who you are with, who you love, or what you do. Always do what you feel is right. Sometimes your decision may be wrong or not the best one you could have chosen, but that's called learning, and it most definitely comes with growing up.

Love who you love, be with who you want to be with, and let whatever happen, happen. This is your life; this is your choice.


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