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Forgiveness? - March 4th 2014, 09:47 PM

So I've been doing some thinking and I realized that the way for me to let go of all my anger and sadness and all these feelings, is to forgive those who did them. Problem is, I don't know how exactly.... My mom has hurt and betrayed me many times and I don't know how to let go of it all. It's one thing to say I forgive you but that doesn't mean I've really forgiven her. All I want to do is to move on but I don't know how to let go..


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Re: Forgiveness? - March 5th 2014, 04:59 AM

Hi Aubree.

A few years back, I was in the same position as you were. See, I had a rough childhood with my mother as well, and for the longest time I hated her. And when I say hate, I mean pure hate. Honestly? It took a very long time for me to move on, let alone forgive her for what she has done to me. However over the past few years I have had simple conversations with her, and I allow myself to pour out some of my emotion into those conversations. I allow myself to sit down and talk to her, even if its for 5-10 minutes and communicate with her. If you continue to talk to her, continue to tell yourself that you NEED to move on and forgive her, then eventually that is what will happen. Forgiveness doesn't come with an instruction manual, and everyone forgives people differently, but the number one things that you have to do is let go of all the pain, hurt, and negative feelings that you still hold from those events regarding your mother. Let them go.

Only after you let them go will you be able to start the forgiving process. Even then, it will be a long road before you reach your destination.


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