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Unhappy I stopped my best friend from cuddling me and I think I upset her - March 20th 2014, 09:16 PM

I am 14 And im a male and my best friend is a female, ok this is how it started. I was watching a movie with her in my bed at my house and my parents werent home and I was in just my boxers and she was in her bra and underwear. (Its not very wierd for us because we are such close friends) and like in the middle of the movie she came closer and closer to me in the bed and kind of tried to wrap her arms around me and cuddle (She might of tried to kiss me on the cheek im not exactly sure) and I kept moving farther but it looked like she was about to cry and she said "I have to go I don't really feel good" in a trying not to cry voice and got her clothes on and I said "Are you ok. Are you sure you wanna leave ive got medicine and i can make us something to eat" and she said "no i really have to go home" and she left. I think I really upset her and hurt her and i don't know what to do.
   
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Re: I stopped my best friend from cuddling me and I think I upset her - March 21st 2014, 06:32 AM

Hey, there.

Well it sounds like she has more feelings for you than you do for her. My guess is that she likes you, and was attempting to get closer to you (i.e., cuddle, kiss, etc), and you pulled away, thus she reacted in a negative way. Sure, you guys may be best friends, but you also have to recognize that best friends only goes so far. Being half-naked in the same bed and her attempting to get closer to you (i.e., cuddling) is where the friend position stops, and a romantic position starts.

So you have to decide what you want to do. Do you want to be with her? Are you willing to be "more than friends"? If so, then I would contact her and tell her you're very sorry, and you're willing to try things again. If you're not willing to be more than friends with her, then you need to tell her that you think the line was crossed, and you didn't feel comfortable with it because you guys are such good friends.

Remember, communication is key.


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