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Need help in getting a friend back - April 12th 2014, 02:12 PM

I really messed up my relationship with a friend at college. She's always been there for me, when others weren't. I hurt her feelings and said some bad things about her friend too. It really wasn't my intention, things just happened and I never thought it wood lead up to this. She doesn't hate me though, I was unwell one time from what happened and she asked me how I was doing, even succeeded putting a smile on my face, and I suppose there's really just a trust issue now. I still say hi to her in the morning and she does reply to it. Just yesterday i needed some advice on my guitar and she helped me out over text message. However bottom line is I can't hang out with other members of our mutual group cos it just doesn't feel comfortable, especially with her friend around (who really hates me, she won't even look at me). I tried apologising over the phone 1 week ago but at the time she didn't want to talk. She means a lot to me, and I really really miss her. I was thinking I give it another try in a while, I'm thinking of buying her something nice to make things right. Any help is appreciated ^_^
   
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Re: Need help in getting a friend back - April 12th 2014, 07:32 PM

I'm sorry you've been left in a position like this, it can't be nice. I think being civil around her like you have been is fine but then still leave it for a while for any more in depth chats. She might still be a bit upset by the whole situation and it might take a while for it to be repaired, and you wouldn't want to rush that.

As long as you've apologised sincerely, there's not much more you can do in the way of making things right. Just keep chatting to her nicely and see how she reacts back to you, she might give you some hints on how she's feeling.

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Re: Need help in getting a friend back - April 13th 2014, 01:35 AM

Hey, there.

I'm really sorry to hear about the situation you've been in recently. First off, we all get into fights/arguments/misunderstandings with our friends and loved ones; it happens. What matters is how you move on from there. As far as I see it, you have two options. One, you can talk to her and sincerely apologize, and maybe even try to make her laugh. Or two, you let time do it's thing and hope for the best. What would I do? Well I'm always an advocate for effective communication, so I think you should really talk to her in a calm, one-on-one setting, and truly open up to her (and allow her to do the same).

In the end, things will happen the way they should.


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