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Question Maybe it is all in my head - June 4th 2014, 08:15 PM

Don't actually know how to start this off. Hopefully it will make sense.

There this woman at work that I care deeply about. She doesn't work for the same company as me. I work in a concession, a store which is in a garden center amongst other stores (Concessions) She works in one of the other concessions.

So we'r been talking which is really nice and sweet. However it seems like she doesn't want to talk to me. It's always me that goes over to talk to her, she never comes to talk to me, yet she will come over to talk to everyone else when I'm not around. When I do go to talk to her, it seems ok, we have a laugh and even a hug at times, but then after a while it will look like she trying to get away from me, I can't explain it, it's really weird I just have this feeling that she trying to escape from my presence. Yesterday confirmed my suspicions. I went over to talk to her, as soon as she saw me she turned her back and pretended to be busy with something, I watched her closely for a few seconds to realise she wasn't actually doing a thing. So I left feeling slightly upset. Then later she came over to our store but she only spoke to my colleague, even though I was stood right next her, it was like I was invisible, when I spoke I was ignored.

So I have told my colleague about this. At first she was saying it was all in my head, however she asked her If I did anything wrong and then told her that I felt like she was avoiding me or something. Of course she said nothing is wrong. She actually came over to us later after just because she knew I was there, I suppose to prove that nothing is wrong. She spoke to me as well as my colleagues. Then as I was leaving work she said we could talk tomorrow morning.

Maybe it is all in my head but it just seems fake now. Like she pretending to want to talk to me and stuff. Maybe it's just me. Maybe I shouldn't have asked my colleague to speak to her about it.

I like talking to her, like I said I care about her, she has been through a lot last year and I'm so happy that she is happy with the way things are now.

Maybe it was best to keep my mouth shut as it probable is all in my head.

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Re: Maybe it is all in my head - August 7th 2014, 11:52 AM

Hey there,

Has things changed or gotten better since you last posted?

I don't think you did anything wrong for speaking with your colleague about your concerns with another employee. It's okay to talk to others if you're a bit confused or concerned as to why someone is acting a certain way that is upsetting you.

There could be a few reasons why she didn't want to talk to you but no one can answer and the only person who can answer that question is only her.

I hope things are worked out by now.

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Re: Maybe it is all in my head - August 27th 2014, 07:44 PM

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Hey there,

Has things changed or gotten better since you last posted?

I don't think you did anything wrong for speaking with your colleague about your concerns with another employee. It's okay to talk to others if you're a bit confused or concerned as to why someone is acting a certain way that is upsetting you.

There could be a few reasons why she didn't want to talk to you but no one can answer and the only person who can answer that question is only her.

I hope things are worked out by now.

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Hiya, thanks for the message

So much has changed since I sent that message.

So I went to speak to her the next day and everything was fine. I apologized and everything was ok.

I now haven't spoken to her in weeks now. She got a new job. She still working in the same building so I still she her. It's just awkward now as It's been so long since we spoke. If she wants to talk to me all she has to do is come over and talk, but she doesn't. Suppose I've given up on trying as it was always me going over to talk.
   
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Re: Maybe it is all in my head - August 28th 2014, 02:02 AM

Hey there,

In a situation like this it might just be time to move on. Maybe she just doesn't feel a connection to you or something like that. I personally wouldn't take it personally though because in the end the people that matter will take the time to get to know you and will be good to you. Don't let something like this get you down. Try and move forward and continue making/growing relationships with other colleagues.


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Re: Maybe it is all in my head - September 2nd 2014, 09:21 PM

I saw her the other day as I was speaking to a friend. She waved at me, I waved back. Every now and then I did catch her looking over at me. I felt bad but I found it hard to go over and talk to her. It's been so long since we spoke.
   
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Re: Maybe it is all in my head - September 4th 2014, 03:23 PM

Hey,

Her waving is actually a good sign it could be an indication of her trying to maintain some kind of contact with you. Don't be too hard on yourself for not being able to say anything to her. Maybe you could try to say something to her sometime soon though. If you really want to try and be friends with this girl the best thing the two of you can do is initiate contact with one another. She waved so that could be a sign for you to say something to her. She might just be open to you talking to her. But, in the end if nothing results there are other people out there for you to meet and befriend.

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