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I think i've just ended it. - May 5th 2009, 12:37 AM

I'll start with a bit of background info. Me and this guy, 'C' have been talking online for around 3 years now, we've never met in person. We used to get along pretty well, we'd speak every time we were online pretty much and our conversations would just flow. It never went further than friendship because i never felt that way about him, he was always just a friend, however there have been a couple of occurrences where he has admitted to having feelings for me, whenever the topic arose though i was always honest with him and told him that my feelings never went any further than friendship. Also, me being apprehensive have never fully trusted him, i mean i had no problem telling him stuff but i've pretty much always taken some of the stuff he's told me with a grain of salt, my reason for this being that there have been a couple of times where things didn't always fit together and contradicted somewhat, however i never said anything because i wasn't really bothered by it and didn't see the need to make something out of nothing if that makes sense. I mean i valued his friendship but chances are we were never going to meet in person and as far as i'm concerned he's just some guy online who i talk to.

Anyway tonight we were talking, and things got pretty heated and he started irritating me, i don't know it just seems like everything i said he turned back in my face and made it into a an insult (usually implying that i am a slag or something), he's been like that for a while and for a few months now it's started to get irritating. Either that or i'll say i like something (like a tv show or band or something) and if he doesn't like said band/tv show/whatever then he will again turn it around and say something like "they obviously suck if you like them" and again it's started to get annoying, because what am i supposed to say to that. I usually just say something like "well tbh i dont care" or "whatever" or something but it doesn't seem to have much effect. I know it seems silly to get annoyed with someone you speak to over the internet but it just gets old hearing the same things over and over again.

We got into a discussion, it started off quite civilized. Something about how we're never nice to eachother and we always insult eachother, which is probably true but its usually in good humor and the only reason i do it to him is because its the only way to get him to shut up when he's insulting me. He went off on one saying how everything he says to me is wrong and i said "well everything i say to you is turned into an insult directed back at me tbh lol" (adding lol thinking we were just having a light hearted debate), after this the convo went after:

Him: Well i wouldn't have to if you were human for once, all you ever seem to do is laugh, or quote something and i'll laugh - you never have an opinion on anything.

Me:
have opinions on things tbh, just not the same things as you.
Him: yeah, alcohol and drugs
Me: no, maybe i'm just bored of talking to you, as you've said all our conversations consist of lately are us complaining about boredom and insulting eachother 95% of the time.
Him: Well maybe you should fuck off then, i don't see an anchor tied to your arse.
Me: That sounds like a good idea, goodbye

Straight after saying that i then proceeded to block him and i'm really not sure how to feel about it. I don't feel sad that i've potentially just ended a three year friendship and i'm pretty sure that he's more bothered about it than i am. I just don't really know what happened for the friendship to get to the point where we just bitch at each other. Maybe we just ran out of things to talk about because to be honest over the past 3 years we've talked about pretty much EVERYTHING and that's not an over exaggeration. I just find him incredibly irritating and immature and in a way im glad i've blocked him. I don't know if i ever will unblock him but right now i really don't care, at the same time i know he does, he is a lot more attached than i am and even though he won't admit it i know this for a fact.

   
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Re: I think i've just ended it. - May 5th 2009, 04:34 PM

Hey :]

In all honesty, if you don't feel sad or any remorse, I think that you made the right decision. If you do feel that you do want to salvage this relationship, talk to him calmly, and ask him about his feelings.

If you think that you two have talked about everything, and that there was no chance that the relationship was going to grow in a positive way - but only negative - I do think that it's best. It sounds as if he's been rude to you without any good reasoning. If he's been rude to you like this, it's on him to contact you and make things right.
   
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Re: I think i've just ended it. - May 6th 2009, 09:42 PM

Hi Nat,

From what you were saying, I think it's time to end the friendship. If all you are communicating to one another is insults and complaints, then that is not a positive friendship. You don't need to take that from him, so don't feel bad about blocking him.

I actually think you ended that quite civilized, so I don't think you should unblock him. Taking him off of your contacts may be a good idea. A bully for a friend is never a good thing.

I'm glad that you are feeling fine about this. Don't worry about him not taking it as well.

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