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Unhappy May be getting kicked out - September 27th 2015, 04:59 PM

I made a mistake at home, which was completely my fault, and my parents are saying that I need to get a paid job in 3 weeks otherwise they will kick me out, and I honestly don't have anywhere to go... My fiancé may be able to have me for a couple of weeks, because my friend may be able to get a house, which I will then be able to move in with, which will be alright...

I'm just scared of what will happen, and I don't know how I will cope




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Re: May be getting kicked out - September 27th 2015, 08:13 PM

Hey,

Uncertainty is really tough to deal with and I'm sorry to hear you're experiencing that right now. I think it's good that you're able to acknowledge that you made a mistake; most people can't even do that. Do you think you could try to talk to your parents? Maybe you can wait a little while for things to cool down and then you can explain that everyone makes mistakes and you're truly sorry about what happened.

I know it can be hard to find a job; do you think your fiance or your friend might have any suggestions? Maybe you could go to different stores around your area to see if anyone is hiring.

Through all of this I think it would be helpful if you provided yourself with some certainty in things. Maybe you could make simple plans, like a plan to take a nice bath or something like that and follow through with it. Simple things like that could help you feel a little more secure in all of this.


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Re: May be getting kicked out - September 27th 2015, 10:59 PM

Hi, Zara.

Not knowing what is going to take place must be really difficult so I'm sorry you're having to deal with this worry. I do agree with Calico about talking to your parents about this. Sometimes during a heated argument, a person may make empty statements out of anger and a mix of emotions. Which is why it would be a good idea wait till everyone calms down and then apologize to them. Make it clear that everyone is human so mistakes will happen as it's a way of learning.

Worst case scenario and you are kicked out (which I really hope does not happen) then I'm glad you can stay with your fiance for awhile and then move in with your friend. In the meantime, it may be best to look for employment options. Even if everything clears up at home, it would still be good to have some financial security of your own, you know? That may help clear up a few worries of yours in the future.

In the meantime, as hard as it may be, just do your best to do something that allows you to get away from the stress and as Calico suggested: make small plans and follow through on them. When you feel overwhelmed it might help to take a short walk for some fresh air.

Best of luck with things, Zara! Take care and stay strong.
   
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Re: May be getting kicked out - September 29th 2015, 05:42 PM

Hey Zara,

I'm sorry that your parents have said this to you. Have you thought about going to the job centre, or maybe you do already. I know it isn't a paid job but they could help to give you some money, at least whilst you're looking for paid work. Have you looked in the local newspapers for any local jobs? You could look at apprenticeships, there are so many at the moment, and the money isn't always as bad as you may expect, it's still not the same but it could help to get you a job when it is finished. Looking online could help to see if there are any jobs within the area. Look at pubs in the local area if you are really desperate for work, I know it's not ideal but it will give you some money for the time being until you find something better. A lot of stores don't take CV's anymore but it could be worth going out with some CV's and handing them out.

In the worst possible case scenario you could go to your local council and inform them that you are being made homeless, they may put you in a hostel or in temporary accommodation and they are not the nicest of places, but it is better than alternatives I suppose. Or maybe if you have family elsewhere you could look at staying with them until you get yourself back on your feet.

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Re: May be getting kicked out - October 1st 2015, 11:17 PM

I, too, am sorry that this is happening. It sounds very stressful. Having that sort of pressure and upheaval in your life can be very challenging. I do think that there will be a few ways to handle it.
As someone else mentioned, going to a career centre may prove to be beneficial.

Are you able to talk to some of your friend? Perhaps someone can put you up for a bit or you can arrange to stay a few days here a few days there until you're able to find somewhere more stable. I know that if one of my friends came to me and said that they needed to stay somewhere for a while, I'd absolutely say yes, within reason - I'd expect them to pitch in for food (or pay me back for their share of food when they have money) and I'm not going to be their chauffeur.

Is there a reason why your parents will kick you out in 3 weeks if you don't get a job? If you're actively looking for a job and just need a little bit more time, maybe you can negotiate with them to allow you to stay for a little while. I know that you say you did something wrong to upset them, but maybe they'd see its in everyone's best interests to give you the time you need to leave.




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