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Unhappy PLEASE HELP - November 21st 2015, 11:02 PM

Hi, im going to be 18 in 4 days, i wish to move in with my boyfriend, we have known and been with eachother for a while now. (1-2 years), yes i a m still in high school. but i want to take this step with him. Yes its huge and there is no turning back for me. my parents dont think we are good together, but its my life and my say. and though they are my parents and i love them, they hold me too tight. im not allowed to have a job. and staying home gives me luxeries like not working, and allowance, and getting clothes and food for free. i dont want that anymore. the price i pay for that, is to not be with my boyfriend (secret) and have a say in religion, and how i run my life. my mom swears she is right, i broke it off with him because the pressure of my family finally broke me. but i couldnt keepp away from him, now he is getting a place and wants me to come, and i want to. i want to do this. maybe soon or when i graduate. but i want to live with him. i just dont know how to take that first step. i have never gone for anything ive wanted in my life before. i need some serious advice. :

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Re: PLEASE HELP - November 22nd 2015, 03:59 PM

If you feel like you're ready, I think taking this step can be beneficial for you. Most people would rather stay with their parents because they'll have some of the luxuries you mentioned and I admire you for wanting to take the next step.

You are right; when you're eighteen, your parents can't really stop you. I think you should take the time to really think about this. Moving out brings on huge responsibilities. Do you have anything prepared for when you move in with your boyfriend? Maybe you can consider looking into a job and budgeting things so you have an allotted amount to spend for food, clothes, and other necessities. While your parents can't stop you, you might make them feel a little bit better about this if you make a plan for everything. I think you should also consider doing a trial run of things. Maybe move in with your boyfriend for a week, and see how things go. Can you balance schoolwork? Are you okay with your boyfriend's habits that you wouldn't otherwise notice if you weren't living together? I believe in you and if you put your mind to this, you can do it. But you have a lot to take into consideration before making such a big change.


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