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Unhappy A Friend Dilemma - May 1st 2016, 04:30 PM

Hello! I am in need of advice. I had invited one new-ish friend to see a concert for my birthday that is in two weeks. She seemed excited when I first invited her, but in the few weeks since i invited her, she seems distant. I am worried that we are growing apart and i am now wishing that i had invited another friend that I have known for longer. I am also worried about how my other friends will see that I only invited this girl on social media and be mad. What should I do?

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Re: A Friend Dilemma - May 1st 2016, 05:15 PM

I would talk to the friend you invited, tell her how you feel she's been distant. You can also make sure she's still planning on going with you. As for your other friends, is it necessary for you to put it on social media? If you choose to post it, I would try to limit how many things you post. For example, instead of creating an entire album of you and this friend in photos at the concert maybe choose one to post instead?

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Re: A Friend Dilemma - May 1st 2016, 10:02 PM

If she is a new friend she may be worried about spending time with you as it can be scary to do something special with someone you still don't know that well, so she may be having doubts just as you are having yours. Try talking to her and asking her about her distance, and also make a special effort to spend time with her, whilst not excluding your other friends.

With regard to social media, try avoiding posting quite personal things like that, but to be honest I think if you explain to your friends that you thought it would nice to spend time with your newer friend they won't be mad. If they really care about you I don't think they'll mind too much.

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Re: A Friend Dilemma - May 2nd 2016, 05:12 AM

I agree with what's been said about talking to your friend about being distant. Bear in mind that she might be going through something or she might just be busy lately, so her distance might not have anything to do with her feelings about you or about your plans.

Don't feel obligated to post pictures on social media. Or if you do, only post one or two pictures like it's been suggested. It's okay to have a special night without sharing it with everyone. It might be nice to keep the pictures for yourself.

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