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How do I handle someone just... Leaving? - May 16th 2016, 11:26 PM

I have... Had.. A friend that I played a lot of video games with. We never had disagreements. We just had fun and played together.
Today when I opened Steam, he was gone. He'd blocked me on Steam and wasn't on my friends list anywhere else.

I can handle people leaving if they tell me why they're leaving. Well, I can't handle it, but I handle it better.

When someone leaves out of the blue though, with no signs that there was something wrong, and they won't tell me why they left - That destroys me.
I don't know how to handle it at all. I never have, and I'm starting to think I never well.

Does anyone have advice on how to handle this sort of thing?
I want to distract myself but with how my brain works I just... Can't. Like it won't work. My brain will always default back to what's upsetting me.
   
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Re: How do I handle someone just... Leaving? - May 17th 2016, 04:26 AM

I'm sorry to hear about this. It's hard to cope when someone just leaves out of the blue and you don't get much closure when you're not given any reasons. It's hard to distract yourself, too. When something's really bothering me I can only distract myself for a small amount of time before I go back to what's upsetting me.

No one can say why your friend left you like this but one thing to keep in mind is that it might not be personal. Some people push other people away when they're struggling when they need them the most. If this isn't the case and he just decided to leave, then I think you're better off without him. That in itself shows that he's not a true friend because true friends stay with you.

I know you said it is hard to distract but is there anything you can let yourself get into? Like a TV show, a movie, or a book? It's a safe way to get sucked into something and it could keep your mind off of things. Another idea is making a to-do list and keeping yourself really busy so you don't have time to think about it.

In the meantime, let yourself feel what you're feeling. Don't push your feelings away because they'll only come back later on. Let yourself rest and try to be kind to yourself.


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Re: How do I handle someone just... Leaving? - May 17th 2016, 12:10 PM

Yeah, I agree. It's really very annoying when people just leave without any proper reasons. I've had many in my life. Just ignored them.
   
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