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May 22nd 2009, 07:24 PM

My friend tells me everything because we're really close. Her boyfriend is extremely clueless, but not really a bad guy. When they get into fights, he's recently started coming to me for advice since he really doesn't understand how to deal with problems. Is it wrong of me to help him out a little by maybe...telling him why my friend is upset, based on what she tells me? My friend tends to ignore or avoid people when she's upset, which makes it even more difficult for her boyfriend to resolve things. I just feel like I'm betraying her somehow, like she spilled her heart out telling me about her feelings and now I'm telling the very person she's mad at. But if I do it to help them forgive each other quicker...is it ok?

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Re: Am I "betraying her" somehow? In some weird, subtle way? - May 23rd 2009, 11:11 AM

I do the same, and believe me even if they get mad at you, they will be thanking you in the end

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Re: Am I "betraying her" somehow? In some weird, subtle way? - May 23rd 2009, 04:06 PM

I agree with Erika, you are helping them. But perhaps, if it's worrying you and you may be right - your friend may think she's talking to you in confidence, you could tell her the situation, and that you don't tell him much but it helps him realise what's wrong, which is best for her. Nonetheless, I don't think you're really doing anything wrong, I've done similar for friends - they often ask me to cause guys just don't understand sometimes !

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Re: Am I "betraying her" somehow? In some weird, subtle way? - May 23rd 2009, 04:26 PM

I think it would better if you said "I THINK it may be because..." Or "maybe it's because of ...?"

Instead of telling him out right.

I know I would be mad if I heard you'd been telling him.However, hinting at it like above would be fine.

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