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no privacy, sometimes - November 10th 2017, 03:53 PM

So was on phone to samaritans for about half an hour one morning and my mum asked who I was talking to, when I was done.
To which I casually answered, oh just the samaritans, hoping that she'd say no more after, but she did
and then today i said to her ohh im just off to send my letter to them, as ive got my reply for the last one and she asked "what do you talk to samaritans about"
yep no privacy here sometimes cant even make a phone call it would seem without being overheard
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Re: no privacy, sometimes - November 10th 2017, 10:34 PM


I am sorry that you are having a hard time right now. I understand that when you called samaritan and you we're talking to them for a while and you wanted to be private and then you're mom wanted to know about it and I get that and you told her about this. And she wanted to know what you we're talking about. With parents, they always want to know what's going on with us as the kids and then when we become teenagers and we don't always want our parents around us or we want to call somebody for help or to talk with them and our parents want to know why and they make it into a big deal. The truth is, our parents are trying to protect us and they don't want to anything to happen to us. That's why they are always asking us about our lives. So you're mom doesn't get upset you can try and explain why you wanted to talk to them and see what she says back. I hope that you will be ok soon. Hugs.
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Re: no privacy, sometimes - November 11th 2017, 01:49 PM

Lack of privacy must be frustrating.

Maybe, when your mom asks questions related to things you’re up to you can answer vaguely. That way you’re answering her question without lying to her. For instance, when she asked what you were talking about with the samaritans you could tell her that you were just discussing general things.

Another way to avoid questions that you feel comfortable answering is to joke. Sometimes, people sarcastically yet jokingly answer a question. It is obvious that it is untrue but it is a way of changing what’s going in the mind of the person asking the question. For example, you could say that you were discussing why the sky is blue. If you use a joking tone and a smile when you say it, she’ll know you’re joking and she may not question you any further.

You can also sit your mom down and let her know that you sometimes feel like you don’t have a lot of privacy and that having privacy is important to you. You can her to try to give you more of it in the future.

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Re: no privacy, sometimes - November 12th 2017, 01:51 AM

Have you talked to your mom about feeling as though you do not have privacy. If she isn't aware that you feel that way, she can't take steps to stop doing it. It might seem odd but if she isn't aware how you feel she might not even know that she is doing it.

I do not know what type of relationship you two have or if she is aware of the reasons you contact samaritans but she might be asking these questions because she is worried about you and wants to make sure things are okay. Of course, if she is worried about you she should just ask but sometimes people struggle with that. I know, in the past, my dad used to do similar things and it would frustrate me but he was doing it to make sure that I was taking care of my mental health and that I was receiving the proper treatment.

Talking to her could make her aware of your feelings and help the two of you come to some type of resolution.

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