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Love thy neighbor, huh? - December 8th 2017, 04:51 AM

I'm kind of unsure how to start this out because it's been such a long road. Nine months ago in March my husband, and I moved with our two kids from some family of ours into our own two bedroom apartment. I had planned on living here for at least a year, and getting my CNA license within that time which is what I did. I wanted to move from here into a house that I bought of my own so that there wasn't anymore moving. Basically, kill two birds with one stone. Get my CNA license, AND buy a house while i'm living here. You know, get my life together & all. So, when I moved here everything was PERFECT! I was so determined to turn over a new leaf, and have a new beginning. I wanted to find a new church to go to, and make new friends, and find new hobbies, and just re-discover myself, and I've done that! But, about mid-late June our new neighbor moved into our apartment building just down the hall. That's when things got rough. On the 4th of July we went to our landlords party because we got really close with them. They started making jokes about how my husband Rick was going to "trade me out" for the new 21 year old. We have a 30 year age gap. I'm 22, and he's 52. We got together when I was 18. So, I thought nothing of it. I thought "I can take a joke, right?" 2 days later a girl comes prancing up to us in the parking lot, and asked us to help her jumpstart her car down the street. We said it would be fine. So, she got in my van, and we went to jump start her car. As I was talking to her I realized that she told me she just turned 21. I realized at that point that SHE was the "new 21 year old" that Rick was "trading me out for". I went ballistic when we got back home, and by later that day I was pounding on her door telling her just exactly how I felt about her. The more I thought about those jokes the more it all added up. I was physically sick over it for about a week. I didn't eat anything, and got severely sick. Vommiting non stop, and crying uncontrollably. I lost a lot of weight in that one week. Which made me sink back into an eating disorder. Which I'm now seeking help for. But, there's a catch. I'm not allowed to talk to other guys...unless if it's family. That was discussed a LOOONG time ago, and any time I did I got accused of something. But wait... it get WORSE. I haven't talked to her since then, and it's now December. She has been telling our landlords that i'm "harassing her" all the time, and that she's going to file harassment charges if I don't stop. I don't know why she would be falsey accusing me of harassment when the last time I said anything to her was right after the 4th of July. I mean, I've patiently sat back knowing that my husband hooks up with her which he has ratted himself out for more than a few times. She moved here because she got into trouble for herion, and wanted to start over here. She has caused nothing, but problems since moving here. If you ask me she's harassing me. Falsey accusing me of harassment, and making threats to "call the cops" all the time behind my back is really breaking me down. I feel like a lot of is 1. She's using the one crazy reaction she got out of me to mess with me. and 2. She's jealous because her boyfriend is stuck in prison which is why she's sleeping with my husband, and I have my life together. I have my 2 kids, and my CNA license, and soon to be my own house. She has a pending case in court for getting caught with herion, and she's on probation, and has screwed all of her family over so bad that they want nothing to do with her. Someone just help me!
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Re: Love thy neighbor, huh? - December 8th 2017, 02:18 PM

This sounds like a difficult situation to be in. One thing to think about is that though it is not wanted for her to falsely accuse you of harassment, it might be okay if she does because you haven't harassed her and you don't really have anything to hide. If she calls the police they'll probably know that you aren't lying when you tell them that you haven't spoken to her since the 4th of July. Her threats to call the police may be nothing more than threats as well.

It seems like this woman has a lot of issues and while that is no excuse for her behavior it is probably related to it. It is awesome that you're doing well with your two kids and you have your CNA license and that is something that this woman cannot take away from you. You've accomplished so much and she can't take all of your hard work away. Remember that.

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Re: Love thy neighbor, huh? - December 8th 2017, 06:55 PM

Thanks, I feel like the worst part is that I have NO ONE taking my side. She's some how fooled our other neighbors in the building, our landlords, and of course my husband into thinking that she's the victim. Which makes it harder because I have no back up here.
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