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I was supposed to meeting up with a friend today, but she said something truly awful yesterday and now I can't even face her. She basically judged me because I wear makeup every day, she said it makes me look like a slut, I don't put a lot on, I don't plaster it on, I don't need a lot of the foundation I use. I can't believe she basically called me a slut, what kind of a friend does that? Its getting to the point where I think everyone is going to judge me about everything. I'm scared to leave the house, every time a friend wants to meet up with me now I will be paranoid that they will judge me.
   
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Re: being judged - December 10th 2018, 04:20 PM

I'm sorry to hear what your friend said. Makeup can be controversial at times as everyone will have different opinions on it, but it was really harsh for your friend to say that wearing makeup all the time makes you look like a slut. While there might be rules when it comes to school and work, you are free to wear as much or as little makeup as you want in your personal life and you shouldn't have to deal with such comments, especially from a friend. Do you think it might help to have a talk with your friend about how what she said upset you?

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Re: being judged - December 11th 2018, 07:58 PM

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I'm sorry to hear what your friend said. Makeup can be controversial at times as everyone will have different opinions on it, but it was really harsh for your friend to say that wearing makeup all the time makes you look like a slut. While there might be rules when it comes to school and work, you are free to wear as much or as little makeup as you want in your personal life and you shouldn't have to deal with such comments, especially from a friend. Do you think it might help to have a talk with your friend about how what she said upset you?

Not everyone will judge you and those that do aren't worth your time
I am going to meet up with her tomorrow and try and talk things through, I need to tell her that if she keeps going on like this then I will have to cut her out of my life and I don't want to keep cutting people out of my life all of time, its depressing, stressing and it makes me feel like its me who has caused it all when I know I haven't.
   
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Re: being judged - December 11th 2018, 08:04 PM

While your friend was wrong in calling you a slut for wearing make-up, maybe there's an underlying reason. Maybe she's too critical of her looks and believe wearing make-up would only serve to make her even less attractive. I would try to feel her out, get her thoughts and opinion on make-up in general first before you get all accusatory. Don't get me wrong, I can only imagine how badly it hurt to have a close friend call you a whore simply because you wanted to look nice. But maybe try thinking outside the box just a little bit.

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Re: being judged - December 12th 2018, 10:13 AM

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While your friend was wrong in calling you a slut for wearing make-up, maybe there's an underlying reason. Maybe she's too critical of her looks and believe wearing make-up would only serve to make her even less attractive. I would try to feel her out, get her thoughts and opinion on make-up in general first before you get all accusatory. Don't get me wrong, I can only imagine how badly it hurt to have a close friend call you a whore simply because you wanted to look nice. But maybe try thinking outside the box just a little bit.

Best of luck!
We are going to talk about it today hopefully we will get things sorted and still be friends
   
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