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Angry I am so done with my family. - January 15th 2009, 07:12 AM

I know this is a horrible thing to say but I am honestly done with my family. For good. I am no longer allowed to see my boyfriend of almost a year every again. He has never said anything out of line to them, he is not a bad influence to me. He is going back to school trying to get his life straightened out. I mean I know this is bad to say but if I don't get away from them I will more than likely commit suicide. I am in love with Kevin and I can't stand being away from him. Well the only time he has said something to anyone in my family was when my Mom was standing in my house talking to him like a piece of trash and he called her the same exact thing. Ya know if she cant take it then she shouldn't dish it out. I mean I just don't know why they are wanting to put me through this shit but what they don't know is that I am just going to leave and they will never see me again...
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Re: I am so done with my family. - January 15th 2009, 07:37 AM

oh yeah and talking to them does no good whatsoever
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Re: I am so done with my family. - January 15th 2009, 08:40 AM

Hey Dustin, i know how you feel, parents can be a handful sometimes, i say they can act more imature than they say we do lol. But the thing is to not give up hope, i know exactly what your going through trust me, just its with my girlfriend... Anways suicide is NOT the answer! You have alot to live for! Have you talked to Kevin about this? Maybe he can help you get through this untill you are able to move out? If it is really bad maybe see if you can stay at a friends house for a few days and let things cool down? Give your parents sometime just to cool down and think about what they have done maybe? I know that its not easy, hell i have'nt even been able to do this, but maybe talking to them about how you feel about how they're acting would help? I know it can be really hard, but you have your whole life ahead of you, you cant just give up becuase your parents are making your life living hell. What would Kevin think if you left him? Iam sure he will understand and try and help you through this. Just try and talk to him, an adult or someone that can help you through this.

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Re: I am so done with my family. - January 15th 2009, 07:22 PM

the sad thing is... they think they are doing the right thing...
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Re: I am so done with my family. - January 15th 2009, 07:59 PM

Hey Dustin!

I know how hard this can be. I know, because I'm sorta going through the same thing. My family doesn't really like my girlfriend of over 2 years. But I've resorted to telling them that I don't care what the think and I'm happy with her. Try setting your foot down and telling them that you're an adult and they can't stop you.


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Re: I am so done with my family. - January 15th 2009, 08:16 PM

You're a 21 year old man ... fuck what they think.
   
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Re: I am so done with my family. - January 16th 2009, 05:23 AM

Hi Dustin!!

I hope you're OK.

Truth be told - the apron strings should have been cut two or three years ago. And if your parents were unable or unwilling to do it - then you should have. You're going to have to grow up. And for your own sake. And that means - in part - moving out on your own. I appreciate how scary that might be for you to do - but given the alternative - I'm not so sure you have a choice. You have out stayed your welcome. [So to speak] And that doesn't mean that your parents don't love you. It's just the way it is. And quite likely - if you did move out - your relationship with your parents would improve.

That said...

I think it was inappropriate for Kevin to talk to your mom like she was a piece of trash. And it doesn't matter if your mom was talking that way to him first. The moment your mom started putting him down is the moment Kevin should have stopped talking and walked away. 'Trash-talking' someone's mom is just not the right thing to do. 'Trash-talking our OWN mom is not the right thing to do. No matter how old one gets - their mom always outranks them. That's just how it is.

So....

In a nice, calm, healthy way - start making plans to find a place of your own. In the meantime - be polite to your family and start focusing on your future.

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Re: I am so done with my family. - January 16th 2009, 04:58 PM

Hey Dustin!

Man I know what its like, my parents think they're doing the rigth thing to... but they're not... Just ignore them and put up with them ntill your really to move out, you dont need to put up with that shit, no body does, so just ignore them, when they start complaining just play a song in your head or somthing to distract you, you dont need to listen and they cant make you, go for a walk or somthing and cool off and let them cool off, everything will work out, you just have to wait it out till the end and hope for the best! Put your foot down and tell them you dont care what they think, its your life, and they cant controll it, your the one thats going to decide whats good for you, not them. So just try talking to them and TELLING them if you have to that you dont care and your tired of their BS.

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