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well this is complicated... - June 6th 2009, 09:20 PM

So my birthday is next Saturday and I'm having a couple of my close friends over. So, here's the thing, two of my close friend, do NOT get along with each other at all but I want both of them to come, but I'm afraid if they do it's going to cause a big fight. Or I'm afraid if one of them finds out the other is coming then there not going to want to come to so they can avoid that person. I don't know what to do, I already invited one of them but I thought about it before I invited my other friend. I don't want to leave her out though. What should I do ?!

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Re: well this is complicated... - June 6th 2009, 09:22 PM

This definitely seems like a complicated situation though, not an unusual one. If they really can't stand each other and you're genuinely worried that they will be very unhappy if one sees the other, then there really is only one thing you can do. If I was in your situation, I would go out with each of your friends separately. That way, they don't have to see each other and you can celebrate your birthday with both of your close friends instead of having to choose.

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Re: well this is complicated... - June 7th 2009, 02:35 AM

Explain the situation to both of your friends and explain to them how much you want them there with you...if there good friends they should come

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Re: well this is complicated... - June 7th 2009, 04:30 PM

Hi Cassie,

I agree that you should explain the situation to both of your friends. Let them know that you want their absolute honest opinion on how they feel about it and ask if they would at least give the other friend a chance by coming. Let them know that this is a day where you would like them to put past differences aside and just have some fun. Hopefully they will be able to go along with that.

If not, then I would suggest asking your parents if you could have two get togethers- one with one friend, and the other with the other friend. If this does happen, then explain to both friends what your plan is. Just let them know that you enjoy spending time with both of them, but would rather that they both be comfortable.

I hope everything goes well for you! Happy birthday!


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Re: well this is complicated... - June 8th 2009, 12:41 AM

Hmm. I think you should talk to them and explain that this birthday is rather important to you and explain why you want them to just get along. At the party, let them sit on opposite sides of the room if they want. Hopefully their loooove for yooouuu will make them be good
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