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Confused about my friendship. - January 16th 2009, 08:17 PM

Well, I was feeling kind of left out when my best girl friend and I would hang out together along with my other guy best friend (who has a lot of classes with me), who I may be in love with. She has only one class with him. They would talk together for a long time and laugh together, which made me feel left out because even if I would say something, they would simply ignore me.

But then again, it is kind of partially my fault because I would tend to push myself between them so as to prevent myself from ever feeling lonely. Feeling left out makes me feel unhappy and alone, and it's happened to me before and I hated being the quiet one while everyone was happy. :/ So I ended up talking with my other really good friend, who made me a bit happier.

However, I couldn't stop thinking about how terrible I felt. I didn't want to feel left out, yet I didn't want to insert myself into the position where I would be making them unhappy. So basically it felt as though I was trading away my happiness for their happiness, even though it made me absolutely miserable.

I told her about how I felt about the situation, and she told me that if you were to see someone everyday and be with them in almost all of your classes
, and then later be given an opportunity where you could hang with someone that you didn't often see, then you would choose to hang out with the second person more and talk to them more than the other person. The whole idea of that just made me feel even more terrible, as though my best guy friend was sick of me or something. I just want them both to be happy, but I find it difficult because I'm unhappy as well.

I hate feeling like the fifth wheel and I feel hopeless because I think they would be most happy together and don't need me. :/ I just want them to want to be with me. I know my best girl friend does, because she constantly tells me so. But sometimes I guess I just feel as though I don't belong when they're so happy together. What do you think I should do? :/

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