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i just don't get them both! - June 26th 2009, 11:49 AM

so i have 2 really good mates who i love to bits! but thing is not lastn ight but the night before we went to a garden party and had quite alot to drink. The night ended with my best mate ending up in hospital , but thing is all night i was looking after the friend not in hospital who was hystericaly crying , and looking after my other mate who has just come back from hospital , and i had the mate who was crying hystericaly screaming at me saying i don't care about none of them 2 when i do alot!!! so like the next day was yesterday and i talked to the friend who was ill and she says shees okay now but is being really funny with me. and the other mate... well ... she was saying alode of stuff over msn calling me a selfish bitch and telling me to grow up when i said hi to her. she was saying how i dont apreciate things my ill mate does for me! how am i supposed to appreciate what she does anymore than i already do!? i mean i saved her from chocing on her own flipping puke!!!!!!!!! the one who was crying couldnt do it cuz she was too buisey screaming at me!

anyway i jsut want to know , how do i make it up to the friend whoos recovering? what can i do to appreciate what she does more? cuz obviousely i arent at the moment. And i just want things to be back to normal between us 3. i want us all to have a laugh again lik we used to , but for some reason i've done something terribly wrong and they both hate me. oh and last night. the ill friend said thanks to the other friend for helping her when she didnt do anything but scream at me. i helped her and she didnt even say thanks to me :S.

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Re: i just don't get them both! - June 27th 2009, 04:02 PM

Hey Sophie,

That does sound like a tough situation you're going through. I think you did the right thing by staying with your friend when she was sick. I don't quite understand why your other friend was screaming like she was, though.

It sounds like you did a lot for your sick friend at the party, and it's weird that your other friend is saying that you don't appreciate her, because you obviously do. I think the best way to really make it up to her is to keep spending time with her. Maybe take your two friends out to lunch or hang out for the afternoon or something. Let them know that you really do appreciate them both as friends.

Maybe your friend didn't get a chance to thank you for helping her at the party. That may be why she didn't. Or maybe she didn't really realize all that you were doing for her.

I just suggest talking through things with your friends and spending time with both of them. Really the best way to let someone know that you appreciate them is to spend time with them.

I hope everything works out with your friends.


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Re: i just don't get them both! - June 27th 2009, 04:36 PM

by the sounds of it, you haven't done anything wrong and they're the ones with the problem, not you. its difficult to communicate with drunk people, and you should never take anything people say to heart when they've had a few too many. i've had more drunk arguments with my best mate than i care to remember to be honest, lol.

don't listen to your friend who is saying you don't appreciate them, it sounds like shes just being a bitch really.

i'd see how things work out over the next few days, and i'm sure things will be back to normal soon enough, don't get yourself too wound up about it.

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