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He's still a liar and a fake. - July 3rd 2009, 08:14 AM

I use to get along with my best friend...okay. We fell apart after he did some horrible things to me, but we always stayed close, like super close. I've known him for almost a year and he knows me better then anyone else. I was and still in love with him, that's how he hurt me. He used me and lead me on to get over an ex. I never got over it or forgave him, he was my first love and my first kiss. He's been dating this girl for about less then six months, but she controls him. We've had huge fights about him because he keeps making promises, but breaking them for her. Like, we planned to go to Warped Tour this year since the day we first met. So, I got the tickets for me and him, I texted him when I got them and he said he had to ask his girlfriend. I then refused to take him if he has to ask some girl to hang out with his best friend. He's been the cause of a lot of my problems...or the ones that came back. I'm getting kind of sick of it. I've always put so much into this friendship and he NEVER did. The only reason I'm up at 3:15 AM is because he promised to call tonight...but he isn't. I'm sick of the lying, the fighting, the asking the girlfriend to hang out with someone he's known way longer then her and who he claims is his best friend, it's just not worth it. He is coming to Warped Tour with me now because I gave in, but I kind of want that to be the last thing I ever do with him. He's been my support system, but for the problems he didn't cause. I just found out my girlfriend is coming up the week of Warped Tour and coming with us, so telling him the friendship is over then may not be the best. I don't know what to do.


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Re: He's still a liar and a fake. - July 3rd 2009, 11:12 AM

Heya Jesse.

Im really sorry that your best friend is taking you for granted, and there is no excuse for that. He should be putting in as much to the friendship as you are. As for him using you in the past, that was unforgivable and I dont blame you for not being able to put it in the past. It seems this boy has hurt you in alot more ways then one. Its great that ye are going to the warped tour together, maybe that might give ye a chance to get back on track. and I must say here that I am exteremly jeleous of you going to the warped tour, I've always wanted to go. Anyway, maybe that week together will give ye a chance to talk?
Maybe you should tell him all of this and see what he does, see if he changes and starts acting more like a friend should and if he doesnt, well see what to do then maybe.

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Re: He's still a liar and a fake. - July 3rd 2009, 08:59 PM

You're friend is just caught up in a relationship. If she is so controlling, you should definitely tell him that he can do better, and not being rude, but coming from a best friend. i'm sure he still finds you two very close. He just needs to think of who he would rather lose; a BEST friend, or a girlfriend that might not last.

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Re: He's still a liar and a fake. - July 4th 2009, 07:31 AM

Hey there,

I am so sorry that all this has happened to you. It does sound like your friend has kind od taken advantage of you and that is not acceptable at all.

I was wondering if you talked to him about it though? Did you ever tell him "Hey, I feel like you have been taking advantage of me for a long time and it sucks and makes me feel like crap?" Because if not maybe you should. I know that probably sounds scary but it might really help the situation out; it might put some things into perspective for him and he might start treating you a little better.

If, however, you talk to him and that doesn't work than taking a break from the relationship is probably a good idea. I know that would suck and hurt but it sounds as though the relationship in general is hurting you as well and no matter what your well-being is the first priority.

I definitely agree that he is caught up in this new relationship he is in and maybe talking to him about that in a non-argumentative way would be a good idea as well.

Hang in there and things will be okay.

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