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My friend is going to run away (HELP!) - July 6th 2009, 10:03 PM

I am BEGGING for help.

My best friend since like third grade is going to run away to Idaho (we are both from Seattle, Washington). She's 17, and I guess she has decided she cannot wait until her 18th birthday (which is in October) to move away from home.

Last night, she told me that she is going to run away to Idaho in two weeks, to be with her boyfriend... and she's not planning on coming back.

So, here's a bit of the backstory:
My friend absolutely hates her family, for a reason I cannot explain. I know her family very well. They are the nicest, most supporting people I could ever imagine. I would kill to have parents like hers. But she just hates them.

She had a boyfriend who is 22. Her parents did not approve (and neither did I!). He bought her cigarettes, alcohol, etc. Her parents made her break up with him (this was two months ago).

Well, her boyfriend moved to Idaho, to be with his mom, because his sorry ass can't hold a job and he would be on the streets if he didn't move in with his mom.

My friend is convinced that she is in love with him, so she told me she is going to run away and be with him. No one but my friend knows where this guy lives, so there is no way we could find her, if she really does go through with this. She won't tell me where he lives, only that he lives in Idaho.

She made me promise to not tell anyone, but, I will break that promise, if need be.

What should I do? I love my best friend. She means everything to me. I want her to be happy, but her boyfriend is a horrible influence, he got her to do drugs and drink. I also love my friend's family; they are like a second family to me. I know they don't want to lose their daughter.
I... I need help!

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Re: My friend is going to run away (HELP!) - July 6th 2009, 10:15 PM


I think you need to have a talk with her and tell her why he is a bad influence, why she shouldn't do this, etc. Honestly, if she thinks she is in love, there's no telling what she will do. I have a similer problem with a friend of mine, thankfully we found her. If she refuses to listen, then I think you should talk to her mom and dad. It seems like you said her parents are nice and I'm sure they'll talk to her. She might be mad at you BUT you have to think, what's more important, her safety or her being mad.

I hope everything works out, you can always PM me if you want to talk <3

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Re: My friend is going to run away (HELP!) - July 7th 2009, 02:51 PM

Hey there,
Like Cassie said before me, you should really sit down and talk to her. What she's about to do isn't safe for her at all, and everyone will worry about her. This guy does not seem to be good for her, but i'm going to guess that she can't see any of his flaws right now. Talk to her, and tell her about how you feel about this. It was unfair for her to make you promise not to tell anyone because that's not right. I'm glad you realize you will break that promise if it comes down to it. It's alot better than having her leave and no one ever getting into contact with her again. Good luck with everything, hopefully it all goes okay.

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Re: My friend is going to run away (HELP!) - July 8th 2009, 11:23 PM

Like other people posted, try talking to her. If you can't seem to get through to her, I'd try talking to her parents. Tell them how concerned you are. Even if your friend somehow finds out and gets mad, you did the right thing, and I'm sure she'll forgive you later on.

Good Luck, you're in my prayers.
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