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friendship turmoil, grr - July 25th 2009, 03:35 AM

my very best friend is really no longer that.. we had a serious fight about a year ago (thrown way out of proportion), one that involved me questioning and subsequently bad mouthing the girl he was madly in love with. she was stringing him along like a puppy dog and i felt the need to voice my concern, yada yada yada

after a year we made up, but now he wants me to apologize to the girl, OH and as if that wasn't bad enough the girl is now his girlfriend..
..so now im expected to apologize for all the terrible things i said (which weren't so bad) but i don't want to have apologize to her..

what should i doo??
   
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Re: friendship turmoil, grr - July 25th 2009, 11:09 AM

I would say be the bigger person and apologize, just to get things set aside. Yeah, you may not like her and you may worry she's going to hurt him, but if it's what he wants, it may be nice just to apologize because he's a friend.

It's hard for people to hear things they don't want to, so it's going to be hard for him to see that she may be stringing him along. But, if it's making him happy now, the best thing you can do is support him but watch out for him at the same time. It's not an easy thing to do, but it lets him know you're a friend.
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Re: friendship turmoil, grr - July 25th 2009, 07:30 PM

thanks Steph, i'm going to just have to suck it up i guess.. here goes nothing


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Re: friendship turmoil, grr - July 26th 2009, 11:46 PM

Hi Britt,

I hope I'm not too late in saying that your friendship is more important than keeping up your opinion about your friend's girlfriend. I know it can be difficult to deal with, especially when you want your friend to have the best, but do what you need to as his friend and get this behind you.

From now on, try to let your friend find out on his own what is good or bad for himself. It's important that he learns on his own and not from your opinion. I think that voicing your opinion can be really important, but in some cases, it is better to be supportive of you friend and be there for him if something goes wrong.

I hope that this goes well for you and that this grudge can finally disappear.

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