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Clamming up... - July 26th 2009, 01:59 AM

My friends know everything about me, now thats ok, the 3 close ones, but the rest of them I dont want them to know, so is it bad to want to just.. shut yourself off from friends all but the closest ones, I mean still see and talk to the others but just close up a little, so they dont know everything about me, its kind of been happening as my mum stated telling me today thinking I wasnt ok, but I just want to keep my life to myself, too many people look and laugh at it...



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Re: Clamming up... - July 27th 2009, 12:09 AM

Hi Joel,

I think that having privacy is very important, and if you want to keep some things about your life to yourself or only talk about it with your close friends, then that is perfectly fine.

What I don't suggest doing is shutting yourself off from your friends. You can still see them, hang out with them, and talk to them without getting your personal life involved. If a subject comes up that you don't want to talk about then just tell them that you would rather not talk about it and bring up another subject. As your friends, they should respect that decision.

I think that you should rethink your friendships if you find that your friends are looking at your life and laughing at it. That isn't what friends are supposed to do. If that is what they are doing currently, then I suggest you talk to them about it and say that what is going on in your life is important to you and you do not want them to treat it as a joke. If they continue to do so, then you should stop hanging out with them.

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Re: Clamming up... - July 27th 2009, 12:20 AM

I've found those friends I can be completely open and others where I don't say as much but we still hang out a lot. There isn't anything wrong with not saying anything to friends. Eventually, once the friendship continues, more info and trust will build.


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Re: Clamming up... - July 27th 2009, 12:42 AM

I dont want to whinge and like... Be all oh feel sorry for me cos its not like that, I got myself in this mess and Ive got to deal with it, but my ex was very open with everyone about my life, people laugh at me for my future, what I want to do with my life and how I go about things... I guess as you say Nat they're not really friends...

And then as you say Erik... I have found 3 people who I tell everything too, but I wish I could almost take back time and unsay things to other people...

Im going to a new college next year, complete new start, new area and everything so I guess I can start again there aha, but at the same time Im terrible at meeting and greeting new people... I guess that needs a new thread... How do you make a good start with people in a completely new place where you know noone! LOL



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