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Exclamation my parents are so unfair. - August 10th 2009, 07:10 AM

ok so my parents have been making my desicions for too long, and this year (im going to be a sophmore in highschool) and i want to make my own desicions. like they want me to play basketball because they think it'll tak eme somewhere in college, and i honestly don't enjoy playing it anymore. i've played it for so long that im just tired of it. and they keep complaning about tight money issues, well my basketball is a huge chunk of it and i try to tell them that, but they just dont listen to me. i really want to do the musical this year, but it conflicts with basketball...
is there anyway where i can tell my parents i want to do what i want to do?

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Re: my parents are so unfair. - August 11th 2009, 12:07 PM

Hi There.
I think you should try to sit them down, and talk with them calmly about the matter. If you get a bit frustrated at them for not listening to you; try to hold back and not let this show. If you're sensible about the situation they will see that you truly deserve to make your own decisions as you are showing them you are acting in a responsible manner and therefore you should be allowed to do what you want as you've earnt the right.

If they still won't allow you to do your own thing then my only other advice is to write them a letter explaining how you feel to them; and hopefully they will have time to reflect on your words and allow you to drop basketball.

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Re: my parents are so unfair. - August 11th 2009, 02:35 PM

Its hard havıng controlling parents and I fully understand where youre coming from. Parents try and do right by their children and Im sure yours just want you to get accepted into a good college but they arent thınkıng about your wants or needs. Try and speak to them calmly and tell them that for you basketball ıs no longer a hobby and youre sıck of ıt and you would lıke to have the chance to try your hand at somethıng new and that would ınvolve gıvıng up basketball ın order to do somethıng you thınk you wıll really enjoy.
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Re: my parents are so unfair. - August 13th 2009, 01:46 PM

Those are both awsome peices of advice and I'd say the same. The only thing that you can realy do with that kinda parental situation is talk, but show that your responsible and mature and hopefully they'll see that side of you and understand that basketball isn't what you want anymore. Good luck!
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Re: my parents are so unfair. - August 13th 2009, 06:53 PM

Hello there!

If you feel so strongly about making your own decisions then, just like 'glittermist' said, sit down with your parents and maybe suggest to them that they can still help with your decisions, but ask them to maybe hand over the reins for a little while. You've gotta remember that your parents just want the best for you, and as you said about the money worries and how basketball would cost a lot - they wouldn't be doing it if they didn't want to. Be grateful that you're being given the chance to try new things, while you can and don't wish for independence too soon.

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Re: my parents are so unfair. - August 14th 2009, 04:55 AM

As annoyed as you are with them I'm sure their best intentions are there. Hey at least they don't ignore you!
But, yeah the best thing to do would probably be to sit down and talk with them. And hey they can't force you to stay in basketball you can quit on your own if you really dislike it.
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