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help pllease urgent - August 26th 2009, 12:50 AM

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thanks 4 readin this i reli need help cos iv tried doin everythin but nothin seems to work.. ill explain..
my mum an dad split up wen i was 3.. that was fine and dandy.. she and numerous amounts of one night stands.. which was fine too!
then she met her current fiancee.. i dint like him,, not one bit.. we moved in too fast.. the relationship moved too fast.. we moved school then which went well..
then he started getting reli scary.. he got mad over nothin and said absolutely terrible things to and about me and my brother an mum..
then he started gettting violent.. not wi me but he choked my brother 4 no reason an was constantly at my mam.. he came close to hittin me couple times.. esp when i ran away an when he found txts sayin i was goin to kill myself.. he went craZY...
so he's violent an she wont leave and expects me to stay too.... well makes me stay.. anyways i gotta go.. but plz help me.. i dunno wat ta do :S:S:S:S

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Re: help pllease urgent - August 26th 2009, 05:18 AM

If you feel that you are in danger, then you could go to the police. I'm sure when you say he choked your brother for "no reason" you can't be serious. What does your mother do about this? Has she ever talked to you about it? I think it would be something to talk about with her when her fiancee isn't in the house.

I don't know what else to say because I find it a little difficult to understand some of the things you've typed, but I understand that you do need help. If you can talk to your mom when she is calm that is great, and hopefully she could help put an end to it. If he continues being physically and verbally violent, you should contact the authorities.
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Re: help pllease urgent - August 26th 2009, 07:50 PM

Hi Tasha,

I'm really glad that you are looking for help and I hope that you are able to use some of the advice on here. It sounds like you are in a tricky situation as well as a dangerous one.

What your mom's fiance is doing is not right. You and your family should never have to feel in danger where you are living and have to worry about being attacked or harassed. I highly suggest you contact the police about your mom's fiance's behaviour and get it dealt with.

Also, it's important that your mom knows exactly what is going on. Does she know how her fiance is treating you and your brother? Has she heard what kinds of things he has been saying? Make sure you tell her and let her know that you feel in danger around him. If it would help, try writing down what he's done and said and give the written copy to your mom to read (make an extra copy for yourself).

If you are worried about going to the police on your own, try asking a friend, trusted adult, or neighbour to help you contact them. If you are in school right now, you could also talk to a guidance counselor or teacher about it.

I hope you are able to reach out for help and convince your mom that she is in a dangerous relationship.
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Re: help pllease urgent - August 26th 2009, 10:44 PM

go to the police. get a restraining order and explain to them the situation. they will help. then, if i was you, i would go to a theripist because its truly an awful sitution and it could help to talk to someone.
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Re: help pllease urgent - August 27th 2009, 10:00 PM

thanks guys it reli means aloy that ye read and help
my mam knows whats going on cos she's there when he does it! she wont leave and she's now pregnant with his second child. im just starting college in a few weeks and i thought she'd want nothing mor than for me to leave this place, but she wont let me leave under any circumstances.. she knows exactly how i feel about him and how he treats us, we talk about it alot... yet she wont leave! sorry the thread was a bit brief and not in detail, i reli couldn really explain cos my mam was in the room an i had to make it as short as i could so i could get it posted asap!

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