TeenHelp
Support Forums Today's Posts

Get Advice Connect with TeenHelp Resources
HelpLINK Facebook     Twitter     Tumblr     Instagram    Hotlines    Safety Zone    Alternatives

You are not registered or have not logged in

Hello guest! (Not a guest? Log in above!)

As a guest on TeenHelp you are only able to use some of our site's features. By registering an account you will be able to enjoy unlimited access to our site, and will be able to:

  • Connect with thousands of teenagers worldwide by actively taking part in our Support Forums and Chat Room.
  • Find others with similar interests in our Social Groups.
  • Express yourself through our Blogs, Picture Albums and User Profiles.
  • And much much more!

Signing up is free, anonymous and will only take a few moments, so click here to register now!


Friends and Family Everyone has disagreements, even best friends and family. If you need advice about a relationship, ask us here.

Closed Thread
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
  (#1 (permalink)) Old
Member
Not a n00b
**
 
Dontdomornings92's Avatar
 
Name: Courtney
Gender: Female
Location: U.S.A

Posts: 61
Join Date: July 19th 2009

What are some good ways to make friends?? - August 27th 2009, 10:42 PM

Ok first off I wanted to say THANK YOU!, you guys are so nice on this site and you give me lots of good advice. I am 16 and a girl and I am a senior btw.

Anyways I am going to split this up into 4 separate things:

1. Well if I have the chance to talk to people one on one I am usually very talkative and opinionated and I make lots of jokes. Well sitting in class I want to get in on the class discussions and answer questions but I just don't know how. I mean I see other people answer questions and make jokes in the middle of class and actually the teachers seem to like people who get involved more then they do the quiet people like me. I just seem to have horrible timing and then when I do get a chance to talk I feel like everyone is starting at me and I start to stutter and talk too fast and then everyone ends up laughing at me (and I am NOT trying to be funny). Any suggestions??

2. Ok so I HATE being put on the spot. The first thing that pops into my head comes out of my mouth and it is usually the wrong thing to say.

I also need to think before I speak ok so like today I was at a meeting at school and my friend he wasn't at the meeting yesterday so I was talking to him and I was telling him what we did yesterday and I was like yeah we had to go around and compliment everyone even the teachers and the teachers were right behind me and they heard me say that =(

3. How can I make friends, especially with guys?? I have found that I have a lot of acquaintances but hardly any friends whom I actually see outside of school or hang out with or talk to on the phone or anything. I don't have texting so that is not an option =( and I do have a myspace but I have found that a lot of people don't check there myspaces often. Anyways so how do I make friends??

4. Well I met this guy last year and I really did want to date him but I have realized that is NEVER going to happen because of his religion. So alright I am TOTALLY fine with being friends with him. We talk a lot at school but that is it, I didn't see or talk to him all summer =( Also he never really comes up to talk to me, I always have to go up and say something to him, does that mean he wants nothing to do with me??

He dosen't have internet or texting so those are not options. He also has issues with talking on the phone. This is our last year of HS, all I really want is to still talk after we gradguate and maybe hang out sometimes, is that really too much to ask?? Also how do I get to the point where we still talk after we gradguate??

Thanks for anything you can help me with =)
   
  (#2 (permalink)) Old
RandomRed Offline
Member
Not a n00b
**
 
RandomRed's Avatar
 
Name: Emma
Age: 25
Gender: Female
Location: Scotland

Posts: 77
Join Date: August 30th 2009

Re: What are some good ways to make friends?? - August 30th 2009, 08:55 PM

well number 3. Join clubs i know you've probably heard it before but it works. I joined cadets with one of my friends and if i hadn't i would have stopped talking to her by now.

4. Well it's good you ok with the religion thing. Ok the first move thing i understand it gets fustrating but maybe he just doesn't have confidence. Invite to something with a few of those other acqaintences and make them friends. After school might be harder but work at it.

2&1.The spot thing your going to have to get over by yourself but i suggest deep breathing before you answer and check around about you before you start sayiung stuff lol. When you say things in class start with small inputs them people will start talking round your point. Start making inputs in your best subject as well so your less likely to get things wrong giving you more confidence.

They are a bit jumbled and i was typing fast so spelling mistakes are probably common anyway hope i helped.



   
Closed Thread

Bookmarks

Tags
friends, good, make, ways

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off




All material copyright 1998-2019, TeenHelp.
Terms | Legal | Privacy | Conduct | Complaints

Powered by vBulletin®.
Copyright ©2000-2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search engine optimization by vBSEO.
Theme developed in association with vBStyles.