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Unhappy Complicated Problem - October 3rd 2009, 05:14 AM

Hey everyone. I have this problem that I really, really need advice with. It's something I have never told anybody, and I guess I want to start doing something about it.

Anyway's, I had a great time growing up, going through elementry school and middle school. This is mostly because of my friends. These guys were probobly the best people in the world. We used to do all sorts of fun things togather. I always remember, me never getting through a day without laughing my head off. We had almost everything in common, we all had playstations and played games online late in the night, we all loved paintballing, we all enjoyed playing sports togather like street hockey and football, really, I was having the greatest time of my life.

In grade seven I got involved with football, and this is how I met some new people. These new people were really into football, like I was, and eventually, near the end of grade 8, I stopped hanging out with my old friends alltogather to hang out with my football buddies. I never thought at the time that this would be the biggest mistake of my life.

The next year I was in high school. The first semester of grade 9 was awsome, I stopped playing football so I could focus on my studies, but I still hung out with my football buddies. Thats when a problem I never thought I would have would come right into my face. My football buddies smoked weed. I never seen them smoking it, but they talked about it. After the first semseter, it turned into a daily thing, and I was hanging out with them, but I never tried it. Then the worst thing I done to my body happened, I tried weed. At first it was only once a week, but it turned into three times a day. I spent nearly $500 on the drug, and now, I feel sick when I think about how much money I actually spent.

Near the end of the second semseter, I began to really want to get out of the "weed game". This was because it was causing my grades to drop drastically. Like, Me, a straight A student, gettings F's was not acceptable. I fell into a depression, then it hit me, I wanted my old friends back. I still played online games with them occasionaly, but I didn't hang out with them. Now you would think I could get them back easily right? Wrong, because for some reason, I just cant talk to them. I dont know what to say to them! Its so awkward being a guy and going up to them and asking them if I can hang with them again. Really, I just don't know what to do anymore. If I stop hanging out with the stoners(which I want to), I wont have any friends.

Any advice on how I can start talking to my old friends again? How I can gain the confidence to talk to them?
   
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Re: Complicated Problem - October 3rd 2009, 07:13 PM

I know you're not going to like hearing this, but you gotta ditch your current friends! If you don't stop, your grades are gonna drop, you'll have no motivation, and you're probably not gonna get into college or anything. You have to take a step back and look at your future. And I think having no friends (temporarily!) is better than hanging out with the ones you have now.

I would give it all my energy to get those old friends back. The ones you had before 7th grade. Just go up to then and apologize- I'm sure they'll let you back in. They're the best people in the world to you, right?
   
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Re: Complicated Problem - October 3rd 2009, 10:28 PM

I think if you're just honest with your old friends about what happened and about how much you like them and want to hang out with them again, they'll let you back in.
Everyone likes feeling loved/cool/wanted, so if you tell them that they're the best friends you've ever had and you want to be friends with them again they'll probably respond positively to that.


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