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My old best friend. Help? - November 1st 2009, 01:42 AM

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Blake tried to kill himself.
Everyone's blaming it on me.
The hospital won't let me see him.
His dad almost hit me.
His misses won't talk to me. She's a mess.
He won't pick up his phone.
James tried to bash me.
Someone broke it up.
Blake won't bash me. He won't.
I wanted him to. So he didn't have to try.
But he wouldn't.
Now it's all on me.
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Re: My old best friend. Help? - November 2nd 2009, 09:29 PM

Hi there,

No matter what happened or what anyone is telling you right now, your best friend trying to commit suicide is not your fault. You did not control his actions and did not put the thoughts into his head. Your friend did this on his own, and it isn't right for your other friends and his family to put the blame on you. You are not at fault.

It sounds like everyone is under a lot of emotional stress right now, and that is understandable, but in no way is it fair to unleash it all on you. You do not deserve to be hurt by anyone.

I don't know the details of what happened, but I do think it might be a good idea to distance yourself from Blake's family for a while and talk things over with your own family and a guidance counselor at school. It sounds like there are some details that you might need to discuss in order to figure out what to do next. It's important that you are safe at home and at school, so if the school needs to get involved in order for you not to come to harm, then step forward and get the school involved. There is no reason for others to be beating you up.

You did not force Blake to do anything, so there is no reason to blame yourself. Speak to someone about what happened and find out what the appropriate thing to do next is. The thing that should come first is your safety, and then afterward see if there is anything that could help calm things down between you and Blake's family.

If you want to talk about this sometime, feel free to message me.
Take care.

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