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Exclamation I HATE THIS!!! - November 7th 2009, 06:55 PM

Ok, so this year I started at my new school and made friends with this girl Taylor. And it was really great at first...
She is now my "best friend". But we are total opposites. She's a good girl, I'm a tomboy troublemaker, I spraypaint, she always thinks about boys, I read manga, she reads Twilight, I hang around guy's she get jeulous.

But thats not the case.

All she ever does is judge me. She really likes this guy at our school and he dosn't even know she exists.
We tell each other about our problems. I listen to her, let her talk it out.
And if i tell her about anything I like she always judges me. I hate that. She tells me that I am too outspoken and to boyish.
I never tell her she is obsessed or boycrazy or pretty much a gossip queen.
She gets jelous that I can make friends with anyone. She just looks around and then tells me how much she hates the popular girls at our school. And the guys I hang around with.
Now I am friends with everyone, incuding those girls. And I tell her that I don't want her to talk that way about them and she gets mad and judges me again.
IT'S PATHETIC!

I HATE IT!!!
What can I do to make her better?

What can i do at all????
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Re: I HATE THIS!!! - November 8th 2009, 03:01 PM

Hi Melody,

It sounds to me like your friend may be a bit jealous of you. She might say harsh things and judge other people because she may not have the same opportunities as them. It isn't fair of her to do that, but it might be her way of coping.

Being opposites is fine, but she should not be judging you by what you read or how you dress. Maybe you could talk to her about it and let her know that you respect what she likes and would like her to do the same for you. Everyone is different, and as your friend she should respect that.

Maybe next time you are hanging out with the boys or the girls she doesn't like very much you should ask Taylor to come along. If she gives hanging out with them a chance, she might realize that they are good people and a lot of fun to spend time with. Including her in the things you like to do might help strengthen your friendship and have her realize that she is not always right about other people.

Keep in mind that Taylor is allowed to have her own opinions, no matter if you like them or not. Instead of trying to make her 'better', give her the opportunity to find out things first hand.

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Re: I HATE THIS!!! - November 8th 2009, 06:38 PM

Melody,
Seeing that you guys talk about everything, maybe you could talk to her sometime and explain to her what she's doing and how it's making you feel? Just explain to her, you don't like her judging you so much and that you would much prefer if she'd listen to you sometime when you talk about something you like. Or maybe if she'd let you explain why you like somethings she'd change her mind or at least say she'd give them a try. I mean, don't get her to start getting in trouble if that's not what she wants to do, but see if you can get her to go out and do some of your activities with you.
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Re: I HATE THIS!!! - November 8th 2009, 06:42 PM

The problem is, she dosn't want to give anyone a chance. When she came on her first day, I came uo to her and started showing her her classes and introducing her to poeple and later on she just tells me "I hate him, i hate her" and so on...
She seems so angry
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Re: I HATE THIS!!! - November 8th 2009, 07:59 PM

She seems to be giving you a chance though. So maybe she'll be different with you? Or maybe you can just sit her down and talk to her about how her behaving like that isn't helping anything.


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