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Question help! advice needed - brother best friend hookup - November 9th 2009, 05:09 PM

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so last night my older brother and my best friend locked themselves in my room to hook up. Despite my asking / almost begging they just ignored and mocked me as I stood outside the door. My friend even called me from inside the room and was unresponsive when i asked her to unlock the door. Finally i was able to unlock the door and i threw them both out. At 4 am i received a text from my friend apologizing for hooking up with him. . . but at 6am i awoke to find them hooking up on the couch, i'll save the graphic imagery i saw.

i can't even begin to explain how angry and hurt i am from this experience. alcohol is not an excuse. This friend knows me better than anyone else in the world yet she almost purposly hurt me (by telling me afterwards that she knew this was wrong). I already have enormous trust issues and don't get upset easilty but for some reason this is affecting me more than i thought it might. She wants to talk with me face to face but the thought of talking about this makes me nauseated. Any advice . . . PLEASE!!!!
   
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Re: help! advice needed - brother best friend hookup - November 9th 2009, 07:50 PM

Hi there,

That was a very irresponsible and disrespectful thing for your brother and your friend to do. It was not fair of them to put you in that situation, even if they were drinking. I understand that alcohol can impair judgment, but that still does not stop what happened from hurting your feelings and taking a toll on your trust.

What I suggest you do is talk to your friend about it. I know you feel sick thinking about talking about it, but it is something you really need to do. Let her know exactly how much it hurt you and that you find it hard to trust her after she went and did this. Listen to what she has to say, but really make your point clear. If she does this again, then I really think you should think about ending your friendship with her.

Have you talked to your brother about what happened as well? It might be a good idea to tell him you will tell your parents about it if he does something like this again. Make it clear that you don't want his sex life to be your business and you don't want him anywhere near your room if he decides to do something like that again.

If this happens again, then I highly suggest you talk to your parents about it. Your brother is older and he should be more responsible than this.

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