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Unhappy Forgotten Friend? - November 17th 2009, 02:44 AM

So I've known my friend Rachel since we were in kindergarten. We've been best friends ever since, and now we're both in our senior year of highschool. We were practically attached at the hip for a few years. But lately I've been noticing that she won't even smile at me anymore. Her answers are short and almost hostile. I've tried asking her what's wrong and I get the usual bullsh*t 'I'm just tired' excuse. Yet she's all happy and cheery when she talks to other people. She's been hanging out with one of my other friends non stop lately. It hurts. They don't invite me, text me, or really even talk to me unless I say something to them first. I hate having to kiss their asses, but it's my senior year and I've grown to feel as if they're part of me. But now it's very obvious that they want nothing to do with me. They treat me like I'm dirt and act like they're better than me. I may not be as smart as they are, but I have feelings and needs too. I don't understand what I did wrong. I gave them everything growing up. Every time she would get dropped off at my house, hungover off her a**, I would lose sleep to take care of her and make sure she didn't choke on her own vomit. Every time she went through a breakup, I was there for her. When she contemplated suicide multiple times, guess who showed up at her house in the middle of the night, just to calm her down? That's right, me. And never once did I recieve an apology or any form of thanks. I dedicated my time to her over years of friendship. Never once was she there for me. She would constantly blow me off. But she was my bestfriend. I couldn't find it in myself to be angry with her. And now she's doing this? After all those years of loyalty and trust I gave her, she slams the door in my face as if those years never existed? I don't understand.
   
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Re: Forgotten Friend? - November 17th 2009, 03:53 AM

The same thing happend to me. My best friend meghan and i were attached at the hip for 2 years. All of the sudden her texts got shorter and then they stopped. She used to promise me all these things and tell me that she loves me. We had the best friendship, we even one bffs of "freshman year." Now we dont talk, i tried fixing things but she just gives me these dirty looks. The thing that irritates me most is she will look at me in the hall and as soon as we make eyes contact she will look away, and she asks MY friends how i have i been doing? Its ridiculous. But i was reall close with this other girl named kiley. She is my other half now, we are inceperable. You just need to find someone better and that will treat you like you deserve. It took me 4 months and alot of tears to get over it, because honestly it is really hard. But every door that closes opens a new one.
   
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Re: Forgotten Friend? - November 17th 2009, 09:31 PM

Hey Ashley,

Having your friend treat you that way is not fair at all. I know she is coming up with excuses for her behaviour, but it is not right that she's blocking you out like this. It sounds like you were really good friends and should be able to talk it through instead of grow further apart.

What I suggest you do is talk to your friend outside of school. Invite her over to hang out for a bit and actually have a discussion about it. Just let her know how you've been feeling and that it really hurts not to have her as close as before. Ask if there has been something going on lately that you can talk over. Say that you would like to be included more when she hangs out with other people. She may try to make excuses, but don't let that stop you from speaking your mind. Just be open and honest and try to find out what is wrong.

If your friend still treats you like this after talking to her about it, then I think it might be time to move on. You are allowed to make new friends too. You don't need to stop hanging out with her completely, just don't let her hold you back from talking and hanging out with other people as well.

I hope things go well for you.
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